12 Best Male Sex Toys 2020 | A Sex Educator's Guide

Top 12 Best Male Sex Toys 2020

This post was last updated on December 11, 2019 at 9:28 am.

There are a lot of different male sex toys out there, which can be overwhelming. 

Choosing a male sex toy can be difficult, especially if you are shopping online. Not all male sex toys are as they seem. Some are better than others AND since everyone is different, what works for one person, might not work for you.

First, let's start with the basics . . . .

Why Use Sex Toys?

Sex toys are designed to stimulate your most pleasurable areas. This includes the prostate. Of course, you might also want to feel different sensations on your penis.

Toys also let you try things you might not normally do - for example, prostate play or letting someone with a vulva penetrate you anally with a strap-on.

Of course, toys are also called toys for a reason - they add pleasure, fun, and playfulness to your sex life and relationship. They let you explore what feels good, add variety to your sexual play, and experiment with new types of sensation.

Sex toys help you figure out what feels good and brings you to orgasm, all good things to know for yourself and to share with a partner.

Sex toys are just another way to experience pleasure.

What Happens If You Don't Like A Toy?

Give it at least 3-4 tries before you judge the toy. Whenever you try something new, the first couple of times you are focused more on the newness and sometimes awkwardness of the situation. Your body isn’t used to the sensation and your mind might wander a bit. 

It’s also important to remember that everyone is different and has a different body. What works for one, may not work for you. So there is no one “best” toy out there - there’s only the best toy for YOU!

Why Do You Want A Luxury Sex Toy?

Luxury sex toys are of higher quality products.

Would you rather drive a Maserati or a Ford? If price were no object, the answer is simple: you would want to drive a Maserati. Why? It’s faster, made with better materials, more exclusive, etc.

The same is true with high-quality luxury sex toys. They are:

  • made of body-safe materials (rather than toxic chemicals that are harmful to your body)
  • quieter
  • more powerful
  • innovative
  • rechargeable
  • waterproof
  • built to last a long time (or will be replaced if they don’t!)

Luxury sex toy manufacturers maintain rigorous standards for their products, spend a lot of time and money on research and development, and stand by their products with at least one-year warranties.

High-quality premium adults toys do NOT have:

  • rough seams
  • a rubbery chemical smell like that of a new shower curtain
  • “jelly” materials

Luxury, quality, and safety come at a price! Remember: you get what you pay for when it comes to adult products.

When Do You Use A Male Sex Toy?

Whenever you want! You can use it alone when masturbating or during couples play. There is nothing wrong or shameful about using a male sex toy. It just adds more fun and variety to your sexual play!!

Popular Male Sex Toy Categories

Masturbation Sleeves and Strokers for Men

Masturbation Sleeves, strokers, and masturbators stimulate the penis. These toys provide tightness and textures that are similar to but are still different from other areas that the penis would penetrate. These male sex toys are not hands-free and require effort for stroking.

Male Vibrators and Vibrators for Men

Vibrators for men or vibrating masturbators stimulate the penis with vibration. Some of these male sex toys are hands-free and can be used whether your penis is hard or flaccid.

Prostate Stimulators and Massagers

The prostate is a chestnut-sized gland, located a few inches inside the anus towards the front of the body and just below the bladder. Sometimes referred to as the "male G-spot" or the "P-spot", the prostate gives you deep sexual pleasure when stimulated. The prostate creates a fluid that protects sperm and helps with ejaculation. So, the prostate important for both reproduction and pleasure.

SEX EDUCATOR TIP: Do you have to pee a lot at night? People with an enlarged prostate have to pee a lot: the prostate swells and presses against the bladder.

A prostate massage stimulates the prostate gland. You can use fingers or a toy for internal prostate massage. The best prostate massagers and stimulators are curved upwards in order to stimulate the prostate.

SEX EDUCATOR TIP: Whenever experiment with anal, you want to make sure you or your partner is relaxed, you start small and work your way up to longer, wider things. Don’t forget to use A LOT of anal lubricant (when you think you’ve added enough, add a little more).

A prostate massage can lead to a stronger orgasm. If you experience erectile dysfunction, a prostate massage gives you all the benefits and pleasure of orgasm, without an erection.

Whether you prefer vibration is totally up to you. Prostate stimulators do not vibrate. However, when using your own body's movement, the stimulation of the prostate still occurs. Meanwhile, prostate massagers do vibrate, which adds extra stimulation to the prostate.

Learn more about prostate massagers and vibrators.

Penis and Cock Rings

Penis rings constrict blood flow to the penis to create longer (from 6 seconds to 45 seconds), harder erections and intensify the sensation of your orgasm. A penis ring holds the testicles down and keeps the testes from contracting thus slowing down ejaculation.

Some penis rings stretch while others do not. Obviously, the stretchier the cock ring is, the easier it is to get on and off your penis. Additionally, some penis rings vibrate. Vibrating rings not only vibrate on your penis, but they are meant to vibrate on your partner's vulva and clitoris/anus so that both of you feel pleasure during penetration. When turned upside down, the penis ring can vibrate on your perineum.

Butt Plugs

Why do men use butt plugs?

Men use butt plugs during sex, masturbation, foreplay, or any other type of sexual play because it enhances orgasms and pleasure. The best butt plugs for men are curved to stimulate the prostate/P-spot/male G-spot.

Just like cock rings, butt plugs can also vibrate. The vibration adds extra sensation and pleasure.

Penis Sheath and Extenders

Why do men use a penis sheath and extender?

Penis sheaths:

- Add impressive girth to your penis with a sheath extender. Also excellent if you have trouble staying erect. - Ultra-real feeling, super soft, and stretchy sheaths give both partners pleasure. - For the receiving partner, the sheath extender adds girth. There is more internal vaginal stimulation when using textured sheaths. - For the wearer, its interior nubs and ribs act as a stroker and can be used with or without a partner. A thick loop wraps around the base of the scrotum, which gives a pleasurable tug to your scrotum during penetration or stroking.

Do You Need Lube?


Personal lubricant, which does not include spit or vaseline, is needed with most male sex toys.


Using lube will lead to better stimulation and more pleasure. Depending on the material of the toy, most toys work best with water-based lubricant, which feels wet. One of our favorites is Ride Bodyworx:

SEX EDUCATOR TIP: Water-based lubricant should be used on silicone and other sex toys, as well as a place holder while your partner's natural lubrication kicks in. You should use silicone-based lube during masturbation, partner sex, and any sexual play in the water.

Do You Need To Clean Your male Sex Toy?


Male sex toys can be washed with soap and warm water or sex toy cleaner.

12 Best Male Sex Toys 2020

Masturbation Sleeves and Strokers

1. Tenga Flip Zero Masturbation Sleeve and Stroker




(Free discreet shipping)

The Flip Zero is a discreet masturbation sleeve and stroker that uses the finest premium materials and the most intricate internal texturing details with added suction for an amazing orgasm.

The opening for the penis provides the perfect seal, preventing lubricant from leaking and forming a strong vacuum seal made possible by the one-way valve.

The coomplex internal details include:

  1. The Ridge Wall's ridges hugs your penis from both sides
  2. The Ripple Dome grasps your shaft while rippling edges stimulate your shaft
  3. An outer layer covers the end orb which stimulates the tip of your penis from all angles

Easier to hold and use, the Flip Zero's pressure pads help to create suction.  Super easy to clean, the Tenga Flip Zero opens completely flat.

BONUS II: The Tenga Flip Zero can also vibrate!

2. Fleshlight GO Surge Masturbation Sleeve




(Discreet shipping)

The Fleshlight GO Surge is shorter, lighter and more discreet than the original Fleshlight. It is easier to grip and stroke with a single hand. It's smaller size also makes it easier for travel.

Despite its size, this Fleshlight masturbation sleeve and stroker is everything you love about the original top-selling Fleshlight, condensed into a more compact design. Made of 100% safe phthalate-free, real-feel SuperSkin, the Fleshlight warms up to the body. The patented design allows the sleeve to stretch and press against the case during use, maintaining proper pressure, resistance and suction.

Several "vents" are built into the threads on the smaller end of the Fleshlight case to allow you to control the suction. Tighten the end cap for more suction or loosen the end cap for less suction. When the cap is loosened at its fully open position, there will be a minimal amount of noise.

Male Vibrators

3. Jett Vibrating Masturbator by Hot Octopuss




(Discreet shipping)

Jett is a powerful luxury masturbator and male sex toy that is worn against the frenulum, just below the tip of the penis. For many, the frenulum is the most sensitive part of the penis.

Powered by two custom ‘bullet’ vibrators, each contains a different sized motor. These different motors deliver contrasting vibration frequencies. You can use each bullet separately or together to find the right strength and frequency of vibration and stimulation for an intense hands-free orgasm.

4. Man Wand Masturbator and Vibrator




(Free discreet shipping)

Position your penis in the vibrating head of the Man Wand. This silicone sex toy for men has two flexible flaps hold your penis in place during stimulation. The textured silicone in the head of the wand optimizes the vibrations and pleasurable stimulation.

You can also use lubricant and move the Man Wand back and forth as a stroker for more traditional masturbation. The handle of the Man Wand is textured for a secure grip during vigorous stroking.

The Man Wand Masturbator can be used with or without an erection.

5. Pulse 3 Solo/Duo by Hot Octopuss


Starts at $99


(Free & discreet shipping)

Pulse is a hands-free vibrating masturbator and male sex toy that uses oscillation technology to stimulate a man's frenulum, a very sensitive part of the penis. The PulsePlate inside the toy delivers waves of vibration to the frenulum and the underside also vibrates so that she feels pleasure as well.

The best benefit is that you do not need to have an erection to use the Pulse Solo or Duo frenulum vibrator. This luxury sex toy can be used whether your penis is erect or flaccid. This is an excellent toy for men who experience occasional erectile dysfunction (ED).

PULSE 3 Types

1. SOLO Essential

  • Lighter, more powerful and technologically advanced version (upgraded PulsePlate with 3mm of amplitude) of the original Pulse 3 Solo
  • Max power | 3950 RPM

2. SOLO Lux

  • A step up from the Essential
  • Wearable wristband remote control
  • Independent Turbo Function - on either the toy or wrist strap remote-allows you to jump to maximum power from any level while the speed sensor increases PulsePlate power when pressure is applied.
  • Magnetic charging
  • Max power | 4450 RPM

3. DUO

  • Designed for couples play
  • Soft vibrating underside - vibrations for her
  • Remote control for couples play
  • Independently adjustable vibrations for her with remote control

6. LELO F1s Developers Kit Masurbator




(Free discreet shipping)

LELO F1s is a luxury male vibrator and masturbator. A vibrating masturbation sleeve like no other that with two motors uses both vibration and sonic waves for the deepest orgasm you will ever have.

Easy to use, easy to hold, LELO F1s never looses power and can be used hands-free. Use the free app as a remote control and to monitor your progress if you are interested in that kind of data.

Access LELO's SDK (Software Developer Kit) to code your own fun stuff, such customizing your vibration patterns and speeds, as well as linking it to games.

Penis and cock Rings

7. Tantus Super Soft Penis Ring




(Discreet shipping)

This 1.5" Super Soft silicone penis ring from Tantus is large enough for comfort and safety. Simple yet effective, this penis ring is super soft and very stretchy.

Made with 100% ultra-premium silicone, you don't have to put on the penis ring before your erection occurs; the silicone is stretchy enough so that you can put it on anytime.

BONUS: The Tantus Super Soft Cock Ring can also vibrate!

8. We-Vibe Pivot Vibrating Penis Ring




(Free & discreet shipping)

The Pivot is a luxury male sex toy that enhances pleasure for both partners with stronger and longer-lasting erections and more powerful orgasms for both partners. When worn during sex, the Pivot stays put and can be used during many sexual positions.

Pivot is soft and stretchy for comfort and is easy to use. Due to Pivot's design, it fits penises of different sizes while providing stability and support.

Connect the Pivot vibrating ring to your smartphone with the free We-Connect app to use your smartphone as a remote control and connect with your partner regardless of distance.

Prostate Massagers

9. Aneros Helix Syn Trident Prostate Massager




(Discreet shipping)

The Helix Syn Trident has:

  • A large angled head for greater more focused stimulation
  • "W" arms for external perineum stimulation
  • A contoured body that is great for beginners and advanced users
  • Super soft silicone

With its 4-inch insertable length and curved design, the Aneros Helix Syn Trident is a hands-free sex toy with a self-pivoting mechanism that simultaneously massages the prostate (male G-spot) and perineum giving you the most intense orgasm that you have ever had.

SEX EDUCATOR TIP: If you use lots of anal lubricant, which is thicker, anal play will be more comfortable and enjoyable!

10. We-Vibe Vector Adjustable Prostate Massager




(Free & discreet shipping)

Vector is an adjustable remote-controlled prostate massager. Designed in collaboration with leading prostate experts, every aspect of Vector was designed for the human body and your total comfort, safety, and pleasure.

Vector is customized to fit your body, with an adjustable head and flexible base that target both the prostate and perineum in comfort. Vector’s two motors work together to stimulate both the prostate and the perineum with rumbling vibrations and gentle pressure.

Change intensity and vibration modes of Vector with the easy-to-use wireless remote or free We-Connect app. Use We-Connect to control Vector's two motors independently, play and share control of Vector from anywhere, create custom vibes and play together with other We-Vibe® products.

Butt Plugs

11. We-Vibe Ditto Butt Plug




(Free discreet shipping)

Ditto by We-Vibe is a remote-controlled vibrating butt plug that can be used during masturbation, foreplay, or sex for anal exploration.

Slim and flexible at the base, Ditto is easy to insert and comfortable to wear. Perfect for beginners or advanced users, Ditto's small size and flexible neck make it perfect for everyone. This premium butt plug has an asymmetrical shape so you can use it in a variety of positions.

Ditto stimulates with gentle pressure and rumbly vibrations and can be controlled by the remote or the free We-Connect app.

Penis Sheath and Extenders

12. Perfect Fit Fat Boy




(Discreet shipping)

Perfect Fit Fat Boy Penis Sheath and Extender is an ultra-real feeling and super strong sheath that gives your penis extra girth or length without it being too large for your partner.

It is very easy to get on and off and stays in place by hooking onto your scrotum with the opening hole at the base of the sheath. This also gives you a pleasing pull on your scrotum for more pleasure during masturbation or penetration.

The Perfect Fit Fat Boy also makes a great stroker and masturbator with its nubs and ribs and soft cushioned feeling on the inside. Just add water-based lubricant on the inside and you are ready to go!