12 Best Sex Toys for Beginners 2021

12 Best Sex Toys for Beginners 2021

Posted by Sexual Health Educator on 4th Jan 2021

See our picks for the 12 best sex toys for beginners as chosen by a sex educator.

12 Best Sex Toys for Beginners

This post was last updated on January 4, 2021 at 10:36 a.m.

Not all sex toys are created equal.

There are high-quality sex toys and cheap sex toys. There are toys that are better for beginners and first-time users and toys that are better for advanced users.

If you are a first time user, CONGRATULATIONS on taking the right steps to making sure you receive the pleasure you deserve.

There are a lot of different sex toys out there, and for a beginner, it can be overwhelming and confusing. You want to try a sex toy but you have lots of questions.

For someone who has never tried a sex toy before, where do you start?

The Basics . . .

Why Use Sex Toys?

Sex toys are designed to stimulate your most pleasurable areas. This includes the clitoris, vulva, and G-spot. Of course, you might also want to feel different sensations on your clitoris, vulva, or G-spot with the help of something other than a finger, tongue, or penis.

Toys also let you try things you might not normally do - for example, anal play.

Of course, toys are also called toys for a reason - they add pleasure, fun, and playfulness to your sex life and relationship. They let you explore what feels good, add variety to your sexual play, and experiment with new types of sensation.

Sex toys help you figure out what feels good and brings you to orgasm, all good things to know for yourself and to share with a partner.

Sex toys are just another way to experience pleasure.

What Happens If You Don't Like A Toy?

Give it at least 3-4 tries before you judge the toy. Whenever you try something new, the first couple of times you are focused more on the newness and sometimes awkwardness of the situation. Your body isn’t used to the sensation and your mind might wander a bit. Also, depending on where you are in your menstrual cycle (or even menopause), your body can react differently to sex toys. Your body has different needs during those times, which can affect how well sex toys can work.

It's also important to remember that everyone is different and has a different body. What works for one, may not work for you. So, there is no one "best" toy out there - there's only the best toy for YOU!

Why Do You Want A High-Quality Luxury Sex Toy?

Luxury sex toys are higher quality products.

Would you rather drive a Maserati or a Ford? If price were no object, the answer is simple: you would want to drive a Maserati. Why? It’s faster, made with better materials, more exclusive, etc.

The same is true with high-quality luxury sex toys. They are:

  • made of body-safe materials (rather than toxic chemicals that are harmful to your body)
  • quieter
  • more powerful
  • innovative
  • rechargeable
  • waterproof
  • built to last a long time (or will be replaced if they don’t!)

Luxury sex toy manufacturers maintain rigorous standards for their products, spend a lot of time and money on research and development, and stand by their products with at least one-year warranties.

High-quality premium sex toys do NOT have:

  • rough seams
  • a rubbery chemical smell like that of a new shower curtain
  • “jelly” materials/latex, which contains rubber

Luxury, quality, and safety come at a price! Remember: you get what you pay for when it comes to adult products.

High-end sex toys and vibrators are made with body-safe materials. The best materials are non-porous and non-toxic. Medical-grade silicone is often used, which is excellent at transferring vibrations and comes in many different textures and finishes. Other premium materials include stainless steel, borosilicate glass, Elastomed, and ABS plastic.

Choosing a luxury vibrator and sex toy can be difficult, especially if you are shopping online. There are lots of sex toys out there. So, how do you know which is the right toy for you, especially if you are a beginner to vibrators and sex toys?

Not all vibrators are created equal, especially if you're just starting out and looking for sex toys for beginners. You should look for unique features to help you have a good first few experiences.

The Best Luxury Sex Toys for Beginners

The best luxury sex toys for beginners:

  • Are easy to use
  • Are discreet with a simple shape
  • Are easy to hold
  • Do not have too many buttons
  • Are powerful but not too powerful
  • Are FUN!

Luxury Vibrator and Sex Toy Categories

External Vibrators

External vibrators stimulate the vulva and clitoris. Some luxury vibrators offer pinpoint stimulation of the clitoris while others offer broad stimulation of the entire vulva.

How does the clitoris work?

The clitoris and penis started out in the embryo as the same genital tissue. Somewhere between 8 to 12 weeks after conception, the Y chromosome determines that this organ will be a penis. The clitoris develops from the same tissues that become the glands and upper shaft of the penis. This shared embryonic origin makes these two organs different versions of the same structure. The clitoris has approximately 8,000 sensory nerve endings and affects over 50,000 nerves all over the body when stimulated. The clitoris resembles a wishbone, but you can only see the tip (the clitoral head) or the hood (the foreskin). There are two clitoral “legs” inside the body that goes along your labia and can be massaged or stimulated during penetration and extend down the vaginal wall.

How does the clitoris help women orgasm?

With so many nerve endings, the clitoris is the only part of the body that is designed solely for pleasure and has no other purpose.  Although women might get older, the clitoris never ages. Once it matures, it’s ready to get to work and seek pleasure whenever she is ready.

What kind of signals does the clitoris send to the brain?

The clitoris is the gateway to pleasure for many people with vulvas. When stimulated, the clitoris sends pleasure signals to the brain. 

People tend to misunderstand the following:

  1. Similar to how every woman’s body is different, so is the shape, color, and size of every woman’s clitoris. Some are small, some are big, some are hidden, while some aren’t shy. While aroused, some increase in size, while others remain under the hood. Some love a lot of pressure, while others prefer a soft touch.
  2. As a woman gets older and thanks to her hormones, her body changes. During puberty, the clitoris starts to grow. By the time she’s in her 30’s, the clitoris will be about 4 times bigger than it was at puberty. After menopause, the clitoris will be about 7 times larger than it was at birth. 
  3. Approximately 70% of women need some sort of clitoral stimulation to orgasm
  4. The clitoris gets erect. Although you might not be able to see an erect clitoris, it fills up with blood during arousal. This blood is trapped in the clitoris until it is released with an orgasm.

Internal Vibrators

Internal vibrators stimulate G-spot and the area around the G-spot. These vibrators should be curved to properly stimulate the G-spot. Some stimulate the clitoris and vulva at the same time and these are often called rabbit vibrators (or dual stimulation vibrators).

What is the G-spot?

The G-spot, or Gräfenberg Spot/zone (named after the German gynecologist who first “discovered” it), is a bean/peanut shaped area (a system of glands & ducts) inside the vagina. When aroused, it grows to the size of a walnut, and it feels rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall because it is composed of erectile tissue. When you are aroused, it swells up when blood rushes to it. (It feels like the roof of your mouth.)

Just like anything else, everyone is different and not one body is built the same way because each of us has sensitive nerve endings in different places. Therefore, it is still unknown if ALL women have a G-spot, but some definitely feel powerful sensations when that area is touched, especially when also stimulating the clitoris. 

Some medical professionals doubt whether the anatomical structure corresponds to an orgasm or whether the stimulation affects other sensitive areas of a woman. When the tissue is stimulated, the tissue lifts the vaginal wall either triggering sensations around the clitoris or sending its own set of sexual sensations.

Where is the G-spot?

It’s an area of spongy erectile tissue that surrounds the urethra about 2-3 inches on your vaginal wall towards the belly button (towards the front of the vaginal wall close to the uretha). The G-spot is easiest to locate when a woman is sexually aroused because the tissue is swollen, making the area firmer than the rest of the surrounding vaginal wall. Many people find it easier to have someone else locate their G-spot.

Couples Vibrators

Couples vibrators and sex toys are used so that both partners can feel pleasure during penetration. They are often hands-free sex toys. Couples vibrators and sex toys stimulate the clitoris and sometimes both the clitoris and the G-spot at the same time during penetration.

Anal Vibrators

Anal vibrators stimulate the anus and help relax the anal sphincters to prepare for anal play. During orgasm, anal muscles contract along with the muscles of the vagina (or penis). (Plus, the internal clitoris extends as far as the anus.) So, anal vibrators intensify pleasure.

For beginners, it is wise to start with a small vibrating butt plug (and go slow!). All anal toys should have a flared base. When comfortable, you can work your way up.

SEX TIP: don't forget to use lots of anal lubricant!

Here are our tips for safe and pleasurable anal play:

  1. Communicate
  2. Listen
  3. Go  S L O W!
  4. Use Lube! It is very wise to be prepared with anal lubricant, which is thicker than regular lubricant. Anal lube stays on the skin longer providing a more comfortable feeling by reducing friction and sensation.
  5. Anal play should not hurt. If it does, that means that you are not doing one of the suggestions above.

Do You Need Lube?

So, now you are willing to try a luxury vibrator. Do you need to use lube with a vibrator?

Personal lubricant is needed with luxury vibrators.


Using lube will lead to better stimulation and more pleasure.Every sensation is enhanced, which will allow you to feel every movement at a heightened level.

For anal play, lubrication is a must. Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce natural lubrication. Therefore, anal lubricant is necessary. Plus, lube makes anal play more comfortable.

Depending on the material of the toy, most toys work best with water-based lubricant, which feels wet. One of our favorites is Sliquid Organics Natural.

How to Clean Your Luxury Sex Toys

It's very important to clean your luxury sex toys before and after each use. Regular soap and water can leave a residue. For people with vulvas, regular soap can potentially change your pH, which can make you dry. Luxury sex toys should be washed with sex toy cleaner.

The Top . . .

in 2021

Best External Luxury Vibrators for Beginners

If you have never used a sex toy and are a beginner, then you should start with an external luxury vibrator. When looking for a first vibrator, you should find one that has different speeds and vibration patterns. It should also be comfortable to hold in your hand.

BEST BULLET VIBE: Femme Funn Ultra Bullet




(Discreet shipping)

The Femme Funn Ultra Bullet Vibrator is easy and convenient to use. This powerful luxury mini bullet vibrator is made of 100% silicone, inside and out. It has one button to push with 20 vibration modes. The Femme Funn is small, lightweight, and 100% waterproof.





(Free & discreet shipping)

Fin is a discreet and versatile finger vibrator and sex toy for beginners that can be used anywhere for external stimulation. This wearable luxury vibrator is worn between the fingers with or without a detachable tether.

Fin's vibrations feel different depending on which side of the toy you use:

  1. One side offers pinpoint stimulation, which is great for clitoral stimulation.
  2. The other side is soft and squishy.

Vibrations can even travel through the fingers by flipping Fin to the back side of the hand or by sliding it up to the base of the fingers.






(Free & discreet shipping)

Small, sophisticated, and discreet, the We-Vibe Touch is a powerful clitoral vibrator that makes a great sex toy for beginners. This super soft and flexible external vibrator delivers deep, satisfying rumbly vibrations with the powerful Tango motor.

BEST WAND MASSAGER: Magic Wand Original




(Discreet shipping)

Deep and powerful vibrations help make the Magic Wand Original a best selling sex toy for over 30 years. Use your Magic Wand by applying its firm massaging, vibrating head onto your clitoris and labia. Start on the low setting and then progress to the higher setting, if needed.

If you want a rechargeable massager, try the Magic Wand Rechargeable.

BEST SUCTION STIMULATOR: Womanizer Starlet 2.0




(Free & discreet shipping)

The Womanizer Starlet features the Pleasure Air Technology that often creates fast and often multiple orgasms — without over-stimulation.

PleasureAir gently sucks the clitoris into the soft silicone tip and surrounds the clitoris with gentle and pulsating vibration. The combination of suction and vibration leads to stimulation but not over-stimulation or needing to stop.

Learn more about all of the different Womanizers HERE.





(Free & discreet shipping)

Carezza Clitoral Stimulator is designed to mimic a human finger massaging your clitoris with light, gentle taps to intense thrumming.

Microrobotics mimics the feeling of a human fingertip, and the patent-pending PercussionTouch™ Stimulation is similar to magic fingers. Different from other types of stimulation, this innovative technology, combined with velvet-touch silicone results in a remarkable range of motion and realistic sensations.

Carezza starts with a light, gentle tap and builds to a deep, intense drumming that is so quick, it feels like powerful vibration.

Fitting in the palm of your hand, Carezza's rounded tip offers pinpoint stimulation. A one-touch on-off button makes Carezza very easy to use with 10 different speeds.

Best G-spot Sex Toys for Beginners





(Discreet shipping)

Ohmibod's version of the classic G-spot vibrator, the Cuddle, is powerful and quiet with a great curve and little bump that is perfect for G-spot stimulation. With 7 vibration patterns and 6 speeds, there are lots of options for beginners.

Cuddle can also be used externally to stimulate the clitoris and vulva if you want a larger vibrator that is easier to hold.





(Free & discreet shipping)

LELO Gigi 2 Vibrator is an elegant G-spot luxury vibrator with a flattened tip that is perfect for pleasuring your G-spot every time. With super soft silicone, Gigi is powerful 100% waterproof.

Gigi can also be used externally to stimulate the clitoris and vulva if you want a larger vibrator that is easier to hold.

BEST BENDABLE VIBE: MysteryVibe Crescendo




(Free & discreet shipping)

The MysteryVibe Crescendo is a body-adaptable smart G-spot vibrator for solo play or couples play. Because you have so many options with this luxury vibrator, you will never get bored! Simply bend Crescendo with your hand into any shape for a customized experience.

Crescendo has 6 different places where it bends and 6 powerful and quiet motors. All of these motors give you 12 vibration modes and 16 pre-set speeds.

Best Rabbit Sex Toys for Beginners

We-Vibe Nova 2




(Free & discreet shipping)

Nova is We-Vibe's luxury rabbit vibrator that simultaneously stimulates the G-spot and clitoris with powerful rumbly vibrations and two motors. Unlike other rabbit vibrators, Nova's external arm flexes when you thrust the toy inside of you. The benefit of this unique design allows this sex toy for beginners to never lose contact with the clitoris -- so that you are always stimulating the clitoris.

Nova is compatible with the free We-Connect app (available on itunes and Google Play). The app gives you more features when you pair the toy with your smartphone.

Best Couples Vibrator and Sex Toy for Beginners

We-Vibe Unite 2.0




(Free & discreet shipping)

We-Vibe Unite 2.0 couples vibrator and sex toy for beginners is a dual stimulation vibrator (stimulating the clitoris and the G-spot.) Although Unite is meant for couples play, it can also be used as a dual stimulation vibrator.

When worn inside the vagina during sex, this remote-controlled vibrator allows both partners to experience pleasure at the same time.

Best Anal Vibrator and Sex Toy for Beginners

12. b-Vibe Novice Vibrating Butt Plug




(Free & discreet shipping)

If you have never tried a butt plug or have tried a butt plug (or several fingers) and are now ready to add vibration, the b-Vibe Novice is the perfect vibrating butt plug for beginners.

(If you have never used a butt plug before, we recommend using the Novice without vibration and when you are ready, add the vibration.)

This luxury anal vibrator is small and easy to insert for beginners. The Novice Plug is about the size of a finger and features a slightly tapered design, which makes it ideal for anal play beginners. With 6 different vibration levels and 15 vibration patterns, anal play first-timers have many different options in which to explore.

The b-Vibe Novice can be used with or without the included wireless remote control — which works from up to 30 feet away.