12 Best Sex Toys for Couples in 2021

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The 12 Best Sex Toys for Couples

This post was last updated on January 3, 2021 at 1:38 p.m.

The best sex toys for couples are new sex toys and products that add fun to your sex life, and they let you explore what feels good and experiment with new types of sensation.

There's a lot of sex toy myths out there. Many people feel that they will be replaced if they introduce sex toys into the bedroom. They also feel that something is wrong with them if they bring "those" products into the bedroom. Or, they don't need those products because they don't have any issues in the bedroom, so why would they need them? Another sex toy myth is that only "those" types of people use sex toys and adult products.


Let's debunk each myth.

MYTHS . . .

MYTH #1: I feel replaced when my partner brings a sex toy into the bedroom.

MYTH #2: Something is wrong with me or my partner if you use sex toys and adult products.

MYTH #3: My sex life is great! Why do I need adult toys and products?

Is it perfect? NO! Nothing is perfect.

So, then don't you want to make it BETTER??

Do you know EVERYTHING there is to know about pleasure? Most people do not!

That's the primary reason to use adult toys and products: they make sex and pleasure BETTER. They add more fun and variety to sexual play. They help you and your partner discover what feels good -- and what does not. New sex toys can help you explore new sensations that you might have never experienced before.

Who doesn't want that??

MYTH #4: My partner and I are not wild, so we don't need "those" types of products.

No matter what kind of sexual play you are into, everyone can use benefit from using sex toys and adult products.


Luxury sex toys and products are not as scary as you think. They are discreet, which means that they don't look like a sex toy, and therefore, are not intimidating as they used to be.

Personal lubricants make sex and masturbation more enjoyable. Sexual stimulants help the arousal process, especially for women.


These products can only HELP you and your intimate moments...not hurt you!

It takes women approximately 10-40 minutes to get aroused.

: Only "those" types of people use sex toys.

And what types of people are these? People who enjoy PLEASURE? People who live HAPPIER and HEALTHIER LIVES? There is nothing wrong or shameful about using these products. They will bring you closer to your partner as well as provide more intimate moments and FUN!

Learn the health benefits of orgasms HERE.

Why Every Relationship Needs Sex Toys

Now that we've debunked common myths about sex toys, it's important to understand why every relationship needs sex toys.

Adult toys help you spice up your relationship and have a more fun and varied sex life. Sex toys can help you and your partner express yourself sexually.

More Sex

Want more sex? Want more enjoyable sex? Adult toys help couples have a more adventurous and fun sex life. If your sexual attitude is more playful, then your sexual relationship is more satisfying.

Women's Orgasms

Did you know that about 75% of women can not orgasm through penetrative sex? Using an adult toy during sex, such as a couples vibrator or a vibrating penis ring, is one way to help with orgasms.

Fake Orgasms

If you are a woman, have you ever faked an orgasm? If so, you are not alone. About 50% of women have faked an orgasm at least once. If you use adult toys, your chances of reaching an orgasm increase dramatically. If she is lucky enough to orgasm through penetration, it could take up to 20 minutes. If she were to use a luxury vibrator, it could take a few minutes, saving more time for cuddling!

Premature Ejaculation

The Mayo Clinic suggests that one in three men or about 30% of men experience premature ejaculation. Penis rings and male desensitizers can help.

Everyone Orgasms

The best sex includes an orgasm for each partner. Yes, you read that correctly: it's recommended that each person should orgasm during sex. That should be the goal every time you have sex. Luxury sex toys help you reach your goal and cross the finish line.

She Hates Her Body

Many women are embarrassed about their body, which can sometimes lead to intimacy issues. Using sex toys during mutual masturbation or sex can reduce the anxiety of nakedness and help create more intimacy.

The top . . .

in 2021

1. BEST OVERALL: We-Vibe Chorus



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There are many new sex toys that can be worn during sex. However, the best-selling We-Vibe Chorus luxury couples vibrator is a best seller for so many reasons. It stimulates both the clitoris and G-spot while the penis is inside. The penis can also feel the vibration as well when using the We-Vibe Chorus! If you use your smartphone as the remote control, you can control this sex toy for couples from anywhere in the world plus design your own vibration patterns. This premium high-quality sex toy for couples is adjustable for maximum comfort and the best fit!

Chorus’ new Squeeze Remote translates a simple, natural gesture – a squeeze – into more pleasure. The new Touch-sense feature uses advanced sensors to respond to body movements in the moment. And, the new AnkorLink technology ensures couples never lose connection.

(If you want a more basic version of the We-Vibe Chorus, then try the We-Vibe Unite or the We-Vibe Match. The We-Vibe Unite comes with a wireless remote control with a one-button interface and is the entry-level couples sex toy. Meanwhile, the We-Vibe Match has a better remote control and comes with a charging base.

2. BEST HANDS-FREE: Eva 2 by Dame Products



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Sometimes, you want to be so close to your partner that you don't want any sex toy to get in the way. The Eva 2 solves that issue because it fits snugly and comfortably under the labia majora. The wings help to keep Eva 2 in place without any straps or panties and can be used in many different positions.

Eva 2 is a hands-free sex toy that can be used during sex so that both partners can orgasm together. Based on the original Eva, the new and improved version of the Dame Eva 2 Hands-Free Sex Toy and Couples Vibrator is:

  • 8% Smaller
  • 10% Lighter
  • Shorter wings and a slightly different profile for better all-around fit
  • Simple to use with button at the top
  • 100% waterproof
  • Includes charging base/travel case




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Melt by We-Vibe is a PleasureAir or suction stimulator designed for couples. Melt surrounds the clitoris with gentle pulsing waves of air and indirect stimulation that leads to fast and often multiple orgasms -- without over-stimulation.

PleasureAir uses gentle changes in air pressure to massage your clitoris without over-stimulation or needing to stop. PleasureAir surrounds the clitoris with pulsating waves and gentle suction.

Melt's slim, curved design fits perfectly between you and your partner in any sexual position so that both of you can climax together.

Melt can be used with or without the free We-Connect app. When using the app remote control, you can control Melt from across the room or anywhere in the world. Use We-Connect to play and share control of Melt from anywhere, create custom vibes, and play together with other We-Vibe products.

4. BEST MULTIPLE MOTORS: MysteryVibe Crescendo



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The MysteryVibe Crescendo is the world's first truly body-adaptable smart luxury vibrator for women, men, couples, solo play, or couples play. Because of its bendable design, you have so many options with this luxury sex toy! Simply bend Crescendo with your hand into any shape for a customized experience.

You can flex this luxury sex toy into any shape that works for you or your partner. That could be a curved shape to stimulate the G-spot, an S-shape to stimulate both the clitoris and G-spot at the same or a J shape to curve around the head of the penis.




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Tenuto’s unique design stretches and adapts around the penis & perineum for increased blood flow, extended erection, and prolonged pleasure. Tenuto can be used alone or with a partner and is remote controlled with the free MysteryVibe App.

Soft, stretchy and comfortable, Tenuto's front three motors are not only designed to stimulate the penis but also deliver powerful vibrations to the partner's labia and clitoris.

6 strong, anatomically positioned motors have vibrations that travel through the penis to give you and your partner powerful orgasms.

6. BEST WAND: Wand by We-Vibe



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Wand by We-Vibe is an ultra-powerful cordless body massager and luxury vibrator. Use it during sex, masturbation, or for a back massage.

Wand is easy and comfortable to hold, lightweight, and ergonomic. Its flexible head hits all the right spots. Use the We-Connect app as a remote control. It also enables long-distance connectivity, so you can play together, even when you are apart.

Wand comes with two attachments for alternate sensations. One is fluttery and focused and can provide intense stimulation to just the right spot. The other is great for stroking and can be used on different shapes and sizes because of its flexibility. Wand's universal head can be used with all standard wand attachments.

7. BEST BUTT PLUG: b-Vibe Snug Plug


Starts at $45

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Snug Plug feature progressively heavier weights, ranging from 1.9 oz. grams to 12.3 oz.

Snug Plug can also vibrate. Vibrating Snug Plugs add vibration for even more stimulation.



Starts at $149

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Pulse DUO is a remote controlled vibrator and male masturbator that can be used during sex. This couples sex toy can be used hands-free allowing you to focus on each other and not the toy. It's soft vibrating underside has vibrations for her. Those vibrations are independently adjustable with the remote control.

Pulse DUO can be used flaccid or erect, during foreplay and even during shallow penetration in numerous positions.

  1. On Top position: Worn on the penis, the woman's labia and clitoris feel the vibration of the underside of the toy, which is controlled by the remote. With the woman's bodyweight holding the toy in place, the couple can enjoy hands-free foreplay.
  2. Missionary position: Worn on the penis, the woman's labia and clitoris feel the vibration of the underside of the toy. With the man's bodyweight holding the toy in place, the couple can enjoy hands-free foreplay.

One of the best new sex toys is Pulse DUO Lux. This powerful couples sex toy is designed for hands-free foreplay. The soft vibrating underside has vibrations for her, while two remote controls control the vibrations.

9. BEST THRUSTING TOY: Fun Factory Sundaze



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Do you want to try a threesome but are afraid to invite another person into the bedroom? That's no longer a concern thanks to the Fun Factory Sundaze. This amazing new thrusting sex toy mimics the back-and-forth movement of penetration. So you can enter your partner vaginally and use the Sundaze anally OR you can enter your partner anally and use the Sundaze vaginally.

Or, if a threesome is not your thing, you can use the hands-free Sundaze with a vibrator for an amazing orgasm!

The Fun Factory Sundaze is a versatile luxury sex toy that thrusts, taps, and vibrates for instant arousal and internal or external stimulation.

10. BEST PENIS EXTENDER: Perfect Fit Fat Boy


Starts at $39.95

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The Perfect Fit Fat Boy is a penis extender sheath that adds girth and length to your penis for more sexual enjoyment.

Fat Boy is a comfortable hollow strap-on that gives your penis that extra girth or length without it being too large for your partner. It is ultra-real feeling and super strong. It is also excellent to use if you have trouble staying erect.

It is very easy to get on and off and stays in place by hooking onto your scrotum with the opening hole at the base of the sheath. This also gives you a pleasing pull on your scrotum for more pleasure during masturbation or penetration.

Don't forget to use ALOT of water-based lubricant!

Personal Lubricant

Simply put: lube makes sex better, and who doesn't want that??


It makes things slicker and more enjoyable. Not only does it increase your pleasure, but personal lubricant decreases your risk of pain and infection. There are many different types of personal lubricants depending on your needs:

  • Water-based
  • Oil-based
  • Silicone-based
  • Flavored
  • Cooling/Warming
  • Sensitive

TIP: Only use water-based lubricant with silicone toys.




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On average, women need 10-40 minutes to get aroused. This can depend on stress, lack of sleep, medication, the time of her cycle, and many other reasons. ON Arousal Oil not only speeds up the arousal process but also kick starts the natural lubrication process.

Made of all natural cinnamon oil, when 1-3 drops are applied to the clitoris, it brings blood flow to the clitoris and helps arousal. The best part is that it kicks in within 5 minutes!

12. BEST FOR ORAL SEX: Sizzle Lips Edible Massage Gel



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Sizzle Lips is an edible massage lotion that heats up when you blow on it. Excellent for foreplay, massage this sexual stimulant into a small area of the body. Then, blow on it to get warm. Finally, kiss or lick it all off and let the fun begin! The more you rub it in, the warmer it feels.

Sizzle Lips Edible Warming Gel is an especially great tasting, glycerin-based gel with no aftertaste.

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