Learn 12 ways and the best sex accessories to make sex last longer for more enjoyable sex.
12 Ways And The Best Sex Accessories to Make Sex Last Longer
This post was last updated January, 2021 at 11:07 a.m.
There’s a time and place for a quickie, but more often, we like sex to last a little longer. But how long is “longer”? For reference, research has shown that for heterosexual couples, sex lasts around five and a half minutes, and almost half of all men ejaculate within two minutes. A different study found that on average, straight couples consider a 3-7 minute session adequate, and most enjoyed sessions that lasted 7-13 minutes. If you (and your partner) want to make your sessions last longer, try out some of these tips:
Have him learn to be LESS aroused
You may find that the more aroused a man is, the greater effect stimulation has. He may be so aroused that he can’t prevent ejaculation, and it may happen earlier than you’d like. Have him learn to use lesser levels of arousal to his advantage. This doesn’t necessarily lead to a less pleasurable experience, but it will make ejaculation easier to control.
He can also try a penis desensitizer if he orgasms too quickly. We recommend a topical anesthetic.
Try a cock ring
Cock rings are penis rings made of silicone, metal, or other materials, and they work by restricting the blood flow at the base of the shaft of the penis. This can help maintain harder, stronger erections, and some men (not all) find that these devices can help them last longer. Some rings also vibrate to enhance the pleasure of the wearer’s partner.
Try practicing mindfulness
Try focusing on your breathing and mindfulness. This can help delay ejaculation. And don’t just practice mindfulness in the bedroom; practicing daily can help improve sexual performance too. Try meditating once a day, or focusing on the small sensations you experience over the course of the day while trying to avoid distractions.
As long as there’s no medical issue causing premature ejaculation, there might be a strategy that’s just as effective as it is fun – just have more sex. For some couples, the only problem is a simple lack of conditioning. You go to the gym to get stronger. In the same way, more sex will condition your body to last longer. If your partner masturbates infrequently or not at all, you may find this strategy even more helpful. If you get used to it, you’ll get better at holding back orgasms.
Focus on your partner
Sex isn’t all about penis-in-vagina activity. If the male partner is facing an impending orgasm, he can simply give it a rest and take a break to pleasure his partner. This will sort of “reset” your progress toward ejaculation, allowing you to last longer when you continue.
Use toys as a couple
It’s not cheating! If you’re playing together and you both enjoy it, introducing some toys into your bedroom activities can be a great idea. For one thing, it can add some variety and it can be a lot of fun. For another, it can be a good tool for helping you both experience pleasure. If the male partner isn’t lasting long enough, he can stop for a bit and use a vibrator on his partner until both partners are close. Then you can both finish together.
This relates to the first point, keeping the male partner slightly less aroused. If he has ejaculated recently, it will take longer for him to orgasm a second time. If he wants to last longer, have him masturbate an hour or two before your sexual activity.
Use the refractory period
The length of the refractory period differs between men, but depending on how long yours is, you might not need to stop after a single round. Have sex, ejaculate, and then move onto something else for a few minutes until you feel ready again, and then go for round two. The penis is often less sensitive after the first orgasm, which will allow the man to last longer the second time.
Try new things
If you’ve been with the same partner for a long time, familiar sex positions can lead you to anticipate orgasm, which will make it happen sooner. Trying new positions and new activities can distract him a bit, which will help him last longer. You may also find some new things you both like!
When the male partner is about to ejaculate, stop what you’re doing and wait a minute or two before getting back to it. If you train your partner’s body to reach the edge of orgasm and then suppress it, he will learn to spend more time close to ejaculating but without actually doing it. You may also find that when he does orgasm, it will be stronger than usual due to an increased buildup of pleasure.
Use thicker condoms
Many men dislike condoms because they reduce sensation, but this isn’t always a bad thing. If you have trouble lasting long enough, that reduced sensation can help you lengthen the session. Try using a thicker condom. If you don’t use condoms, consider it. And of course, the usual rules regarding condoms apply: don’t use more than one at once, and make sure it fits.
If all else fails, you may want to consider taking a medication that will help with premature ejaculation. You should first try a topical male desensitizer that uses benzocaine. Unfortunately, there are plenty of supplements that claim that they’ll help in gas stations and seedy sex shops, but it’s best to avoid those. If you think you might have a medical issue, go to a urologist to find out what exactly the issue is and what you can do to fix it.
The Best . . .
SEX ACCESSORIES TO MAKE
SEX LAST LONGER
Best Vibrating Cock Ring: We-Vibe Pivot
(Free discreet shipping)
The Pivot is a luxury sex toy and vibrating ring that enhances pleasure for both partners with stronger and longer lasting erections and more powerful orgasms for both partners.
Soft, stretchy and comfortable, Pivot stays put and can be used during many sexual positions.
Connect the Pivot vibrating ring to your smartphone with the free We-Connect app for more features including creating your own vibration patterns. Also, you can use your smartphone as a remote control and connect with your partner regardless of distance and control each others We-Vibe in real-time.
Best Non-Vibrating Cock Ring: Laid P3
Laid P3 cock ring helps to achieve a fuller erection and may delay orgasm by slowing the flow of blood from the penis. Angled for a better and more stable fit, a thicker width provides more stability on the penis and better functionality.
The innovative asymmetrical shape of this luxury penis ring allows it to be worn in a variety of ways. When worn up, the P3 also stimulates the clitoris. When worn down, the P3 stimulates the testicles and the perineum.
Best Penis Desensitizer: Promescent Delay Spray
Starts at $19.99
Developed by a Urologist to treat patients with Premature Ejaculation issues, Promescent is recommended by many Urologists all over the world! Promescent helps men last longer during sex or masturbation by penetrating the top layer of skin and desensitizing the internal nerves at the area of application.
This over-the-counter, topical PE medication is applied directly onto the penis. Unlike any other lidocaine delay sprays, Promescent has TargetZone™ technology which provides the same 10mg metered dose of product with every spray and is the key to providing ejaculation control.
Best Vibrating Masturbator: Pulse by Hot Octopuss
Starts at $99.99
(Free discreet shipping)
PULSE is an innovative masturbator or vibrator for men, which enables you to have a hands-free orgasm whether your penis is flaccid or erect. PULSE is the first male sex toy to use powerful, high-amplitude oscillations to stimulate a man's most sensitive area of the penis: the frenulum.
PULSE can be used alone to masturbate or with a partner.
Best Stroker: Tenga Flip Zero
(Free discreet shipping)
The Flip Zero is a masturbation sleeve and stroker that uses the finest premium materials and the most intricate internal texturing details with added suction for ultimate pleasure.
The opening for the penis provides the perfect seal, preventing lubricant from leaking and forming a strong vacuum seal made possible by the one-way valve.
Flip Zero's pressure pads on the side of the toy are soft to the touch and allow for greater stimulation because of the suction it creates. Use the Flip Zero to build stamina so that you can last longer in the bedroom.
Best Couples Sex Toy: We-Vibe Chorus
(Free discreet shipping)
Last longer in the bedroom with your partner with the We-Vibe Chorus, the updated version of the best selling remote-controlled We-Vibe couples sex toy. Chorus is an adjustable couples vibrator designed to be enjoyed with a partner during sex.
Chorus is worn by her during sex for extra stimulation to the clitoris and/or the G-spot. The penis also feels the vibration of the toy and presses the toy again the G-spot for extra pleasure.
Best Condom: LELO Hex
Starts at $9.99
The Hex Condom from LELO features a strong, graphene-inspired Hex structure that is both thin and strong. Its raised inner structure is designed to minimize slippage and maximize sensitivity. This premium condom has ultra-thin panels that move with you and fit any size penis.
The Hex Condom is a natural, latex condom that is .045mm thin and is lightly lubricated. It is perfectly smooth on the outside and textured on the inside.
With its unique design and structure of 350 interconnected hexagons, Hex allows body warmth to be transmitted between partners for a more sensitive and more intimate sexual sensation.