Shopping Tips for Choosing Safe Sex Toys

This post was last updated July 31, 2020 at 10:40 a.m.

Buying sex toys can be an exciting and exhilarating experience. Whether you are a seasoned sex toy purchaser or venturing in with no experience, it is important to know how to choose quality sex toys. Not every sex toy is made equally; keep reading for our tips on how to choose safe luxury sex toys and massagers.

Know Your Brands

Have you ever seen those eye-catching social media or internet advertisements that offer “amazing sex toys for a low price of $10.99”? These ads may seem too good to be true - and they usually are – especially since you pay for what you get! It is important to remember that not all sex toy brands are created equal. The sex toy industry is not regulated by the government, which means that new sex toy brands can offer potential customers toys with claims that can’t be verified. Before you purchase a sex toy, ensure that you do your research on the brand beforehand. Does the website seem professionally designed? Is the text grammatically correct and well-written? Are the descriptors for each toy inclusive of material type and quality? While these questions may seem trivial, red flags you see in these areas are indicative of a company lacking in some level of professionalism. This often translates to a number of things, including inefficiency in customer service, cheaply made products, or un-safe toy materials.

Before you make any sex toy purchases, research your desired brand extensively and read any available reviews. These reviews are perfect for assessing the quality of the brand you intend to purchase your toys from and can warn you of possible scams or poor quality sex toys.

Know Your Materials

Before you make your purchase, it is good to know what types of materials safe luxury sex toys are made of. Since there is no sex toy regulation, brands are not required to ensure that the materials used in sex toy creation is safe for internal usage.

Knowing the difference in materials is useful not only for safety but also for choosing a toy that is perfect for you.

What to Avoid

The main material to avoid is phthalates. Many sex toys are made with plastics that are softened with phthalates. These toys are incredibly dangerous for internal use, as phthalates can permanently damage the function of the reproductive organs. The use of phthalate containing toys has been linked to sperm damage and birth defects. The products can also be slightly more porous, making them harder to effectively clean, which can cause infections or product degradation.

Dyed or painted toys are also ill-advised due to the fact that these colorings may not be safe for internal usage and may run or peel during use.

Jelly latex is one of the least used materials, due to the large number of persons who are allergic to latex. Most toys were made with latex before the modern-day silicone materials were created. Since many people are allergic to latex, less and less luxury sex toy companies are making toys made of latex, so they are increasingly hard to find. There are a lot of people with latex allergies who are unaware of their allergy due to lack of contact. To avoid using a latex-containing toy on an allergic person, stay away from toys made from latex or made in factories that create latex products. Jelly latex toys can produce a strong plastic smell, which are the chemicals coming from the latex.

Acceptable materials

Sex toys made of glass, silicone, phthalate-free plastic, and stainless steel are the most recommended. Each of these materials has its pros and cons and is best suited for specific styles and types of toys.


Toys made of glass are great for those who prefer toys with smoother, slicker surfaces. Unlike other material types, glass toys do not have a “real feel” quality. These toys are not motorized and are perfect for individuals or couples that prefer manual action stimulation. Both water-based and oil-based lubricants can be used with glass toys and can be easily boiled or cleaned using warm water and mild, unscented soap, sex toy cleaner, and the dishwasher . Glass toys can be heated using body heat or warm water before use to add a level of intensity to the stimulation.


Silicone makes up the majority of the toys on the market, due to its non-toxic, virtually non-porous characteristics. Toys made with silicone are generally made to be waterproof, and are therefore ideal for battery operated or rechargeable use. Due to its malleability, silicone can be used to create high-end sex toys of all degrees of thickness, length, and firmness. These toys are easy to clean but are suggested for use with only water-based lubricants.

Plastic (ABS hard plastic)

This type of toy is made with non-toxic, body-safe plastic. Plastic toys are water-safe and can be motorized or made with charging capability. Due to the non-porous nature of these toys, they can be used with any type of lubricant and do not usually require a special type of cleaning agent.

Stainless Steel

Much like glass sex toys, stainless steel toys are easy to use and less prone to harboring bacteria. Stainless-steel toys can be boiled for easy deep sterilization. These toys can be used with any type of lubricant and require little maintenance to maintain their cleanliness and quality.

Know What You Want

Sex toys come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and styles. Due to the variation in high-end sex toys, it is necessary to have an idea of the type of stimulation or feeling you desire. Do you want a vibrating toy that can also be used for penetration? Are you looking for a cock ring with multiple vibration settings? Do you desire a multi-use toy for yourself or use with a partner?

Dildos are phallic-shaped toys intended for insertion or external stimulation. They may be vibrating or manual and are made to suit all types of desires. There are many types of materials that dildos can be made from, therefore, the design and look of each dildo can range widely. If you are interested in penetration, then the dildo may be a great option for you. Vibrating dildos, such as the LELO ELISE™ 2, are great for those who want the stimulation of a vibrator with the insertion potential of a dildo.

Butt plugs and prostate massagers are made for anal penetration and stimulation. They can be vibrating or manual, must like dildos, and come in a variety of lengths and thicknesses. Those who have little experience with anal play should begin by purchasing anal toys that are small and slim. The use of toys that are either improperly sized for your experience or not intended for anal use is not recommended. For those who are experienced with anal or prostate stimulation, the LOKI™ is ideal for intense, concentrated attention.

Clitoral stimulators and vibrators are wonderful for achieving clitoral orgasms. The NEA™ 2 works well for either solo or partner play. Toys that stimulate the clitoris may do so through vibration, sucking motions, or electrical pulses.

While there are a number of other toy types (G-spot, wands, and BDSM, to name a few), with the proper exploration, it is possible to find a toy that is perfect for you. Regardless of the style of luxury sex toy you desire, it is important to be sure that the toy you choose is free from toxic materials and well-designed to prevent injury or harm during use.

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