How to Choose the Right Dildo
If you want a “high quality dildo,” here’s what that should mean in practical terms:
Material you can trust (and clean easily)
A finish that feels smooth against skin
The right firmness for your comfort level
A base that matches your style of play (especially for suction, strap-on use, or anal safety)
Size matters, but it’s not a flex. If you’re unsure, go moderate first — you’ll learn quickly whether you want more length, more girth, more curve, or more texture.
Pick Your Material and Sensation
Silicone dildos are the everyday favorite for a reason: comfortable, versatile, and beginner-friendly. Glass and metal dildos are firmer, smoother, and great if you love focused pressure or temperature play. Prefer something playful or artistic instead of anatomical? Non-realistic dildos (also known as non-phallic) can be all sensation with none of the “looks like a body part” vibe.
Quick Safety and Care Notes
Use plenty of lube, especially with firmer toys (glass/metal) or longer sessions. If you’re using a dildo for anal play, choose a flared base and consider keeping toys “assigned” by use for easier cleaning and storage. Clean before and after play with a dedicated toy cleaner and let it dry fully before putting it away.
Lube tip by material:
Silicone dildos: Use water-based lube as your go-to. Hybrid (water + silicone) can last longer, but because it contains silicone, it may not be ideal for every silicone toy—when in doubt, stick with water-based.
Glass & metal dildos: Water-based, silicone lubricants, or hybrid lubes all work well. Silicone or hybrid usually stays slick longer.
TPE/TPR / “real feel” materials: Choose water-based only. These softer materials can be more sensitive to silicone-based formulas and are often easier to clean with a condom barrier.
Anal play: Go thicker (often labeled anal lube) and reapply as needed—more slip = more comfort.
One-simple-rule: If you don’t want to think about compatibility, water-based lube is the safest universal pick.