How to Find the G-spot
Does the G-spot exist?
There's a lot of controversy on whether the G-spot exists. For many years, people have debated the alleged G-spot, what it is exactly and where it is.
According to some, the G-spot, or Gräfenberg Spot/zone (named after the German gynecologist who first “discovered” it), is a bean/peanut shaped area (a system of glands & ducts) inside the vagina. It’s an area of spongy erectile tissue that surrounds the urethra and can be found by inserting a finger about 2 to 3 inches into the vagina and curving it towards the belly button (towards the front of the vaginal wall close to the urethra). Supposedly, it is rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall and composed of erectile tissue, which means it swells up when blood rushes to it.
Just like anything else, everyone is different and not one body is built the same way because each of us have sensitive nerve endings in different places. Therefore, it is still unknown if ALL women have a G-spot, but some definitely feel powerful sensations when that area is touched, especially when also stimulating the clitoris.
Some medical professionals doubt whether the anatomical structure corresponds to an orgasm or whether the stimulation affects other sensitive areas of a woman. When the tissue is stimulated, the tissue lifts the vaginal wall either triggering sensations around the clitoris or sending its own set of sexual sensations.
How to find the G-spot?
The G-spot is easiest to locate when a woman is sexually aroused because the tissue is swollen, making the area firmer than the rest of the surrounding vaginal wall. Many people find it easier to have someone else locate their G-spot.
To stimulate the G-spot...
- ...have the woman lay on her back and use lubricant on your index or middle finger
- ...insert the finger into the vagina as far as it will easily go
- ...run your finger along the top wall of the vagina
- ...feel for an area that feels different from the rest of the tissue
- ...if you find that spot, make a “come hither” motion/curl your fingers upward so that your fingers are pressing towards her belly button
- ...don't forget to use a fair amount of pressure when massaging the G-spot
If you are lucky enough to find the G-spot, the G-spot area needs direct stimulation with firm and constant pressure. This G-spot orgasm creates a more intense and powerful orgasm than a clitoral orgasm. Massaging the G-spot can also produce multiple orgasms and help you orgasm during penetration.
G-spot stimulation can sometimes produces female ejaculation or "squirting." Women sometimes ejaculate due to the release of fluids from the Skene's glands in the urethra when the G-spot is massaged. This can happen with or without an orgasm.
When the G-spot is stimulated, some women may initially feel an urge to urinate. This is normal. This feeling goes away once the G-spot is swollen and perhaps a potential orgasm is on its way. (If this sensation makes you nervous, try urinating prior to getting started, and lie on a towel as you begin to explore.)
Some people believe that the intensity of a woman's G-spot orgasm is aided by the hormone estrogen. Most women under 30 find clitoral orgasms to be stronger. Due to their high estrogen levels, their vaginal lining is too thick to access the G-spot nerves. As the estrogen levels decline in their 30s, the vaginal lining is thinner and the G-spot is more accessible.
Don't be discouraged if you can't find it. Some women don't feel anything while others feel discomfort. Remember what works for someone else might not work for you.
You can also try a G-spot vibrator if your fingers just don't cut it. The best G-spot vibrators are hard because the G-spot responds to pressure and is curved to target the upper vaginal wall.
So what are you waiting for? Now it's time for you to prove or negate the G-spot mystery!