Luxury Prostate Massagers & Vibrators
Did you know that the prostate orgasm is about 30% stronger than a penile orgasm? Your orgasm is bigger, more intense, and longer-lasting when the prostate is stimulated.
There are many myths (and tons of misinformation) surrounding the prostate, how it functions, and its impact on orgasms. Sexual pleasure is often a journey, and no one should feel ashamed to explore their sexuality and body. When you shop with us at My Secret Luxury, you are sure to find not only the best luxury and high-end products on the market, but also helpful information and tips to help make your sexual experiences even better.
Before we dive into what exactly the prostate is and why it can contribute to a more full, satisfying sex life, let's debunk a few common misconceptions.
Myth: Prostate massage, prostate stimulation, and anal play are only "okay" for gay men.
FACT: 71% of straight men in a relationship have tried or would consider trying a prostate massager. Society has demonized anal play for straight men, encouraging toxic views around who can and can't enjoy prostate stimulation. Your sexual orientation is determined only by who you are attracted to emotionally, romantically, and sexually. If a man is only attracted to women, then nothing that he does (whether sexually or otherwise) can "make" him gay. In fact, there are many gay men that do not enjoy penetrative sex or anal play even though they have same-sex attractions. Your ability to explore your sexuality and pleasure is not limited by your sexual orientation. This also means that the things that you enjoy sexually do not have any bearing (negative or positive) on your sexual orientation. In short, as long as you have a prostate, you are free to enjoy and explore whatever types of sexual sensations you like, including prostate stimulation!
Myth: The prostate massage is only for medical reasons.
FACT: The prostate massage is not just for medical reasons and doing it solely for pleasure is completely normal. Although a doctor may order prostate massages to help with issues such as prostatitis or erectile dysfunction, most prostate massages are intended for pleasure and not to treat a medical issue. In some cases, prostate massages are also used to help clear the prostatic duct, which can help prevent semen from being released unless ejaculation is occurring. Much like the origin of the vibrator, prostate massages being viewed as "strictly" medical is in part due to society's insistence on finding ways to justify sexual pleasure in a more digestible manner, e.g. doctor-approved stimulation.
Myth: There are NO differences between a prostate orgasm and a penile orgasm OR the penile orgasm is stronger than the prostate orgasm.
FACT: Many studies have shown that prostate orgasm is STRONGER than penile orgasm. Penile orgasms are often reported to be shorter and less intense, while prostate orgasms are a full-body experience that can last 3x as long. Most people are also able to have sex for longer after a prostate orgasm since not all prostate orgasms induce ejaculation. Everyone's body is different, so the sensations themselves will vary from person to person. The best way to determine whether a prostate orgasm is right for you is to experiment with prostate stimulation and anal play for yourself. Personal experience is the only way to know for sure whether you like this new sensation or whether you prefer other forms of stimulation.
Myth: Women do not enjoy stimulating the prostate/think prostate stimulation is gross.
FACT: In a study done by Karma Tantric, 80% of women and vulva-owners are interested in prostate play with their partner. Heterosexual couples can, and do, enjoy incorporating prostate play into their sex lives. Much like with G-spot stimulation, prostate stimulation can lead to a more pleasurable sexual experience for everyone involved. Partner sex should always be aimed towards the pleasure of all parties, once the sex play is happily consented to by all. Engaging in a new and exciting form of sex play can increase couple intimacy and lead to more honest and open sexual exchanges. If you are interested in prostate stimulation, consider having a candid conversation with your partner about your desires to try something new.
What is the prostate and where is it located?
Prostates are generally only present in penis-owners and is often called the ‘male G-spot' or the ‘P-spot' because, just like the G-spot, it can bring deep sexual pleasure when it's stimulated. The prostate is a chestnut-sized gland that is located below the bladder and to the front of the rectum. It's normal for men and those with prostates to have rectal exams every year in which a doctor examines the glad to ensure there are no signs of prostate cancer or other worrying illnesses.
What does the prostate do?
The prostate helps with reproduction and orgasm. It creates the fluid that mixes with sperm to make semen, which helps sperm move more quickly and stay alive longer after ejaculation. The prostate fluid actually makes up about 30% of ejaculate and is responsible for the (sometimes) unsatisfactory aftertaste. In addition to creating this fluid, the prostate is also full of nerve endings, which is the reason its stimulation is usually pleasurable.
How to reach the prostate through penetration
To find the prostate while on your back, insert one or two fingers into the anus and move them upwards about one to two inches along the front wall, applying slight upward pressure. The gland feels like a small bulb and, once you've found it, the difference in texture will be evident. If you are on your back, your finger(s) should be inserted in the same manner, but you'll want to apply pressure downwards instead.
If you're the "giving" partner, the instructions are the same. Simply insert a finger slowly and gently into the anus while applying upward or downward pressure (depending on the receiver's position) until you feel a small, bulbous gland. If the receiver is immediately ready to begin exploring, you can rub the area in circles, back and forth, or sideways to gauge which motion most engages the receiver.
Can you massage the prostate without insertion?
Absolutely! Although internal stimulation is a popular choice, either using a sex toy or fingers, the prostate can also be stimulated externally. To do this, you'll want to massage the area between the ballsack and the anus, called the perineum. If you aren't comfortable with insertion or just prefer non-penetrative play, massaging this area can be a great way to experiment in an enjoyable way.
You can also try oral stimulation by rimming or giving a handjob or blow job. These acts of foreplay can help to keep the receiver sufficiently aroused, which enlarges the prostate and makes it even more sensitive to touch and sensations like vibration. Although internal contact activates the nerve endings in the prostate more directly, it's definitely possible to experience a prostate orgasm through perineum massage alone.
How to get started with prostate massage
Firstly, whether you are playing solo or with a partner, clean hands and short nails are a must! The anus is incredibly sensitive, so, to avoid ribs, tears, or scratches, you or your partner's nails should be clipped short and filed down to a round, un-sharp edge. Wash hands thoroughly with soap, being sure to scrub under the nails to remove bacteria. We all know that the function of the anus may make some people a bit hesitant at first. Feel free to use a condom over your fingers or the sex toy to help make yourself feel more comfortable, if needed. Even if you plan to do this, still be sure that everyone involved has clean hands and nails that won't cause injury.
To help things go a bit smoother, the receiver (and giver) should also consider taking a shower and/or douching beforehand. Although not necessary, having the area be extra clean often serves to make the process easier and less messy, especially if the thought of poop makes anyone a bit uneasy.
Be sure to have thick anal lube on hand, which will help make the experience more comfortable and enjoyable. It's important that everyone involved is relaxed and that the receiver is aroused and ready for this new form of stimulation.
What are good luxury sex toys for prostate massage?
You can begin with a sex toy, like the Aneros Vice 2 Prostate Massager or take things slow and start more simply with something like the B-Vibe Vibrating Slug Plug. Butt plugs and prostate massagers are great ways to slowly explore the prostate while also having fun with toys. Prostate massagers and butt plugs come in all shapes and sizes, making it super easy to tailor your toy specifically to your sexual needs.
Like things a bit more simple? Opt for a massager that doesn't vibrate that you can control using sphincter contractions for a targeted, but gentle approach. If vibration is something you're interested in, you can invest in a vibrating massager with various speeds, patterns, and intensities.
Once you're ready, try moving on to more advanced toys like dildos (for anal play) and strap ons (perfect for partner sex). Toys that aren't specifically made for anal play can be dangerous to use if they are not shaped correctly. Any toy that is inserted into the anus should have a flared base to prevent toys from "getting lost" in the rectum. So, while you can use any toy with a flared base, it's best to stick with toys that are specially designed for anal play. You can also try toys such as anal beads, which are wonderful as a tool during foreplay or to help warm up the prostate for more intense stimulation.
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