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How to Choose a Strap-on Harness

What Is A Strap-On Harness?

There are a lot of stereotypes concerning strap-on harnesses. It’s widely believed that lesbians are the only ones who use strap-on harnesses. Sure, many lesbians use strap-on harnesses, but they’re not the only people who engage in harness play.

Lately, harnesses have found their way into the bedrooms of many heterosexual couples. Some men, for example, use a harness if they have an issue staying hard for long periods of time, or if they lack the stamina for longer play. A harness can also be used by a male to stimulate both the vaginal and anal areas on their female partners simultaneously.

Transgender men have multiple uses for harnesses as well. Harnesses can be used for both sex and packing (when someone wears a dildo during their regular activities throughout the day to display a bulge in their pants).

As you can see, harnesses have multiple uses for multiple people. You can use them to switch up the gender roles in the bedroom, gain dominance over your partner in a new exciting way, or simply as a hands free dildo. Whatever the case, harnesses are great fun, and it would behoove you to learn how to use them properly.

How To Use A Strap-On Harness?

There are multiple harness types to choose from. Some harnesses, for example, have a base that allows a place for the harness ring to latch onto. With this kind of design, you’ll be able to mix and match so that you can ultimately find what both looks and feels the best for your personal preferences. Many harnesses allow you to change the ring so that you can use dildos of varying size. Whether the dildo is big or small, the choice is up to you. As a side note, harnesses aren’t generally designed to be used with anal plugs. Not to say that they won’t work, but it’s best to stick with a dildo if you wish to engage in prostate play.

The number one way to determine whether or not a harness is made to fit with your body type is if the dildo comes to a rest against the pubic bone. This position gives you the most control while you’re at play. Your harness doesn’t have to fit tight against your body, but it must have enough stability that it stays in place as you move around. Furthermore, you may have to adjust the straps as you shift positions. One position, for example, may allow for a snug fit, while another might cause the dildo to move around too much. Most men find as they wear harnesses that the most comfortable and stable position for the dildo is above the penis.

How To Choose A Strap-On Harness

Selecting a strap-on harness can be intimidating especially if you are unable to try it on. As long as you have the right information and make a few key decisions, it should be easy.

Here are a few tips on how to choose a strap-on harness:

Style

A G-string or one strap harness are worn like a thong. People prefer G-string harnesses because they like the pressure from the strap on their genitals, while others find it uncomfortable. This harness gives you more control but the strap will be in the way if you will also be enjoying genital stimulation.

A double strap harness fits around the legs similar to a jock-strap. The leg straps fit around the tush for better control and adjustability. This dildo harness stays in place and allows for the genitals to be exposed. Many people find this harness more comfortable. However, it does take a little practice to use and might need adjustment if changing positions.

Luxury harnesses now come in a regular panty style. They look and feel like regular panties and strap on panties are very comfortable.There are no buckles or adjusting necessary. This harnesses are usually machine washable. Not only are panty style harnesses easy to wear but they look beautiful as well and can be worn all day.

A double dildo compatible harness allows for the wearer to have a dildo inserted as well. It is designed with a backing that allows the user to unsnap the back from the front and insert 2 dildos or a double dildo.

If you prefer to have material between yourself and the dildo, some harnesses have an internal panel that offers the wearer a covered dildo base. However, some people enjoy the stimulation of the dildo against their genitals, especially when using a vibrating dildo or bullet vibrator. Harnesses with internal panels are perfect for dildos with balls, as the balls fit in front of the panel (resulting in less pinching and pubic hair-pulling) and are less bulky than if they fit behind the harness.

 

Buckles vs. D-rings

Harness straps can be fastened with either buckles or D-rings. Buckles might take longer to fasten but they will never slip. D-rings often slip where the straps loosen, but they can be easily adjusted for a tighter fit by pulling on the strap with one hand. Harnesses with D-rings can also be put on and taken off quickly. Some harnesses have buckles around the waist and D-rings around the legs. This combination works great when you are in a hurry.

O-rings

The ring on the harness that the dildo goes through is called the O-ring. Some harnesses have permanent rings, while other have rings that can be interchanged for varying-sized toys. Larger dildos may not fit into a permanent O-ring, which generally measures 1 ¾". Be sure to check the diameter of the O-ring of a harness (if it is permanent) and the diameter of your favorite toy to make sure they are compatible. If the harness style allows for interchangeable O-rings, you can buy O-rings to fit your dildo and snap it into your harness.

Material

Leather harnesses get softer and more comfortable, molding to your body over time. Although leather feels good against your body, it is hard to clean because it should not get wet. Therefore, it can be hard to maintain and disinfect.

Fabric and nylon harnesses are machine-washable, but they are not dryer-friendly. Some fabric harnesses are as comfortable as leather harnesses and can be worn in the shower or tub. These harnesses are lightweight, which makes travel easy.

Size

Most harnesses range in size from about 28" to 60" around the hips. Consider if you would like to wear your harness around your waist or low on your hips.

Adding Clitoral Stimulation

Your partner shouldn’t be the only one who gets to enjoy harness play. You should both be able to share the pleasure. If you’re interested in having just as much fun as your partner, you should invest in a harness that has a built-in pouch in the pad. This pouch should be just the right size for a miniature vibrator. If your harness does not have a pouch, you can always find vibrators that fit inside of the vagina or even one that you can wear right on the clitoris. You can use any combination of vibrators, anal plugs, and all types of kinky toys to enhance the experience. The possibilities are endless.

Strap-On Harness Tips and Tricks

Depending on the type you use, harnesses aren't exactly easy to master. You’ll have to play with the strap adjustments, attach the dildo correctly, put the harness on properly, play with the pouch, find the most comfortable position, etc. The only way you’re going to get better with using your harness is by practicing. Try playing around with your partner the first few times as you engage in harness play. It’ll get easier over time.

Don’t forget. Your partner is the only one who can tell you if you’re doing a good job. A dildo can’t tell you what feels good and what doesn’t, so you’ll need to regularly talk to your partner to ensure that you’re doing everything correctly. This experience should be about the sexual gratification of your partner, so it’s their input that matters the most. Use your eyes and hands to ensure that everything is where it should be. Try different sex positions until you find one that works for you both. If you can’t seem to find a position that provides the comfort that you’re seeking, you can always use a sex pillow. Sex pillows are one of the best options for providing comfortable support in the bedroom while you’re engaging in kinky fun.

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