Getting old is never fun. Your mind feels like 17 years old, but your body aches, you are more forgetful, and pleasure is a low priority. Although it happens to all of us, getting older does not mean that it should be the end of your pleasure journey.
As an older woman, pleasure will now look different and that’s ok. All older women are in the same boat and female sexual dysfunction is normal.
Luckily, research has found regular use of a vibrator, whether you use it alone or with a partner, has been linked to positive sexual function, including increased desire and improved ability to reach orgasm. Who couldn’t use more desire and easier orgasms??
THE TOP 10 BEST SEX TOYS FOR OLDER WOMEN IN 2023
BEST WAND MASSAGER: Le Wand Petite
Many older women need more power to orgasm. There’s nothing more powerful than a wand massager. A wand massager is easy to hold, easy to operate, has a long handle, which doesn’t vibrate or hurt your hand if you have arthritis, and can also massage other parts of your body, if needed.
Powerful and focused vibrations in the head of the Le Wand Petite allows for penetrating pleasure. With 10 speeds and 6 rumbly vibration patterns and different attachments, you can have a different experience each time you use Le Wand.
Body-safe with a sleek silicone head, Le Wand Petite is designed to rotate 360 degrees. This allows the vibrations to resonate through your body without causing any friction or overstimulation. The flexible neck and a lengthy handle with easy-to-use controls allows for smooth maneuvering.
BEST SUCTION: Womanizer Classic 2
If you are older women, who don’t have the time or patience for an orgasm, a suction sex toy is the answer for you!
The Womanizer Classic 2 is the classic version of the Womanizer stimulator and sex toy for women, which features Pleasure Air Technology that creates fast and often multiple orgasms — without over-stimulation.
Pleasure Air gently stimulates the clitoris without touching it. The clitoris is sucked gently into the soft silicone tip and is surrounded with gentle and massaging air waves. The combination of suction and massaging air waves leads to stimulation but not over-stimulation or needing to stop. You should be able to orgasm within a few minutes.
How does it work? The Womanizer Classic 2 directly stimulates the area around the clitoris using massaging air waves and suction. The pleasure cap is placed over the clitoris, making a seal around the clitoris. This creates a comfortable suction that teases and stimulates the clitoris via microprocessor-controlled pressure waves. The end result is a different kind of stimulation with intense orgasms.
Pleasure Air Technology features the perfect balance between pulsating and massaging changes in air pressure without touching the clitoris. This ensures that the approx. 8,000 nerve endings are never over-stimulated leading to a new kind of extraordinary orgasm.
Unlike standard vibrators, the Womanizer Classic 2 does not overstimulate the clitoris or causes the clitoris to be overly sensitive.
There are lots of different Womanizers suction toys to choose from depending on your budget and the features that you want. No matter which you choose, all Womanizers will help you if you have trouble orgasming.
BEST SUCTION FOR SEX: We-Vibe Melt
If you want a faster orgams during penetrative sex with your partner, then Melt by We-Vibe is for you!
Melt is a PleasureAir stimulator and sex toy is designed to be used during sex. Melt sex toy surrounds the clitoris with gentle pulsing waves of air and indirect stimulation that leads to fast and often multiple orgasms — without over-stimulation.
The curved design of this luxury sex toy is comfortable and easy to hold, while the PleasureAir head is located at Melt’s tip. Melt sex toy’s slim, curved design fits perfectly between you and your partner in any sexual position so that both of you can climax together.
PleasureAir surrounds the clitoris with pulsating waves and gentle suction. Waves of air massage the clitoris with sensations and 12 intensity levels that range from gentle kisses to stronger suction as you increase intensity.
BEST SONIC WAVE MASSAGER: LELO Sona 2
If like power and suction, SONA 2 is a powerful clitoral stimulator that delivers sonic waves that stimulate the entire clitoris (not just the tip, like traditional vibrators).
Sonic waves reach all parts of the clitoris — the pearl part, which you can see at the top of the clitoris and the clitoral legs, which you can’t see. SONA 2 doesn’t rely on vibrations like a conventional vibrator, which only focuses vibrations on external nerve endings. Instead, SONA 2’s mouth rests gently around the clitoris and emits sonic pulses for contact-free stimulation. Therefore, your clitoris will not become sensitive and you can orgasm over and over again.
The clitoris is stimulated with a sonic hum for a different kind of orgasm produced by the gentle deep-tissue massage of sonic waves. It’s a prolonged climax after a sensual build-up. It’s a different, fluttering sensation that resonates through the entire body of the clitoris, building to an orgasm. This orgasm will be unlike anything you have ever experienced.
BEST SMALL CLITORAL VIBRATOR: Je Jour Mimi Soft
Small and discreet, the Je Joue Mimi Soft luxury vibrator is best for women who experience postmenopausal symptoms or who have painf or discomfort with penetration. The soft, squishy tip is comfortable on delicate skin, and the ergonomic design fits comfortably in your hand.
With multiple vibration patterns and speeds, Je Joue Mimi delivers powerful rumbly vibrations.
BEST RABBIT: We-Vibe Nova 2
If your body requires power — both externally and internally — and prefers a blended orgasm of the clitoris and G-spot, then a rabbit vibrator might be the key to your success.
Nova 2 is We-Vibe’s ergonomic luxury dual stimulation rabbit vibrator that that flexes with your movements and adjusts to your body while simultaneously stimulating the G-spot and clitoris for a blended orgasm.
The ergonomic design includes an adjustable internal G-spot stimulator to fit your body. The adjustable shaft provides added stability, is easy to adjust, and then stays in place once you’ve found the perfect fit.
Unlike other rabbit vibrators, Nova’s super soft external arm flexes when you thrust the toy inside of you. The benefit of this unique design allows this luxury sex toy to never lose contact with the clitoris — so that you always stimulate the clitoris.
Nova’s ergonomic handle makes this luxury sex toy easy to use thanks to a comfortable grip. The shape is easy to adjust and stays in place once the perfect fit is found, ensuring non-stop, comfortable one-handed pleasure inside and out.
BEST DUAL STIMULATION: Snail Vibe
If you think penetration will help you orgasm along with clitoral stimulation, then you should consider the Snail Vibe. Created with scientifically backed research and development, the Snail Vibe stimulates your clitoris and penetrates your vagina while simulating sex like no other dual stimulation vibrator. With two individual motors, each with 5 speeds and 5 modes (resulting in over 600 possible combinations), Snail Vibe allows for customization of both erogenous zones to fit your needs. Snail Vibe e offers the greatest amplitude of dual stimulation – 7 times more than other vibrators and allows you to adjust the effect on two erogenous zones directly during stimulation.
Snail Vibe boasts the vibrating power of a wand massager, the insertion depth of a dildo, and the dual stimulation of a rabbit vibrator. This luxury sex toy combines eight types of stimulation and replaces all three types of sex toys at the same time.
BEST BULLET: Lora DiCarlo Drift
Drift is a warming bullet vibrator and luxury sex toy for women. Featuring an angled curve to provide control and stability while held in your hand, Drift’s contoured tip features a raised stimulation point, delivering enhanced tissue stimulation. Drift’s warming feature creates a lush experience, just above body temp, for a realistic, relaxing touch. The benefits of warmth can help stimulate your blood flow, relax your external muscles during use, and enhance your overall pleasure for a more enhanced sensory experience from start to finish. Drift’s ergonomic design curves to your body, pleasuring both outside and in. Its external stimulation point was designed to deliver deeper, more precise stimulation to your vulva, encouraging G-spot and clitoral exploration.
BEST INTERNAL: Lora DiCarlo Sway
Sway by Lora DiCarlo is a doubled sided warming vibrator with two independent motors for G-spot or P-spot stimulation.
Anatomically contoured, Sway features two different sized ends. Smooth curves and a raised stimulation point on one end is ideal for G-spot exploration, while the larger end provides perineal pleasure. Sway is easy to hold and is also an excellent luxury sex toy for clitoral stimulation. Due to Sway’s length, it’s super easy to go from external to internal stimulation. Every side is Sway’s good side. Its dual ended motors on each side vibrate and stimulate with powerful intense rumbly vibrations, creating simultaneous sensations.
Sway’s warming feature creates a lush experience, just above body temp, for a realistic, relaxing touch. Sway’s internal heating mechanism delivers pinpointed, targeted heat on both ends of the wand vibrator. The benefits of warmth can help stimulate your blood flow, relax your external muscles during use, and enhance your overall pleasure for a more enhanced sensory experience from start to finish.
BEST 3-in-1: Fun Factory Sundaze
The Fun Factory Sundaze is a hands-free tapping, thrusting, and pulsating luxury vibrator for instant arousal and internal or external stimulation.
Sundaze is not just a vibrator. Using patented new technology, Fun Factory Sundaze moves from zingy to rumbling vibration, but also to light tapping that stimulates like nothing else. The pulsing and stroking motions and hands-free thrusting offer internal or external stimulation. Most vibrators only stimulate one kind of nerve ending. Sundaze stimulates three kinds, which can help you if you have trouble orgasming. Different nerve endings process different kinds of sensation. This thrusting vibrator is excellent if you are sensitive or if you require a lot of power. After using this luxury sex toy, sex with a partner actually feels more intense, not less.
BONUS – CLITORAL STIMULANT: ON Arousal Oil
ON Clitoral Arousal Oil is a best-selling all-natural clitoral stimulant that helps you achieve stronger, more intense orgasms. In some cases, this oil can be used to treat and resolve decreased sensitivity in the clitoris and vulva due to age or other factors. Excellent for anyone with a clitoris — no matter what age — who want to get aroused quicker or have trouble having an orgasm, ON has created an oil-based clitoral stimulant. Shockingly powerful, this arousal oil uses a proprietary blend of essential oils and botanicals including sweet almond oil and Cinnamomum cassia to create a safe, natural arousal effect unlike any other.
This clitoris oil is created in small batches to ensure that the highest level of quality is maintained in each and every bottle. Almost upon application, unlike other stimulating gels and oils, ON Clitoral Arousal Oil offers an immediate warming effect. It then moves to a buzzing, vibrating, and pulsating sensation on the clitoris that causes blood to rush to the nerve endings and increase sensitivity. When this increase in blood flow occurs, every touch becomes heightened and the entire vulva becomes a magnet for intense, sexual pleasure.
Most importantly, ON’s clitoral stimulant allows those with a clitoris to achieve orgasm easier. Using ON Arousal Oil will help the body respond more easily to physical stimulation, and give the type of full-body awareness that raises arousal levels. Applying this product during foreplay can help a couple increase their sexual intimacy and create a more dynamic sexual experience. Another wonderful benefit of ON Arousal Oil is that it may actually help some women increase their production of personal lubrication. This may be extremely helpful for women going through hormonal changes or taking medications that tend to decrease their body’s ability to self-lubricate. Increased clitoral sensitivity often triggers the body to self lubricate in greater amounts, which reduces the need for personal lubricant. When used with a sex toy and with a good deal of foreplay, like nipple stimulation and oral sex, this arousal oil can lead to the ultimate, earth-shattering sexual release.
THE BASICS . . .
What Happens To Your Body As You Get Older?
There are many changes that older women face sexually and having an orgasm has slowly become much harder.
Many woman experience the following:
- Having an orgasm is harder and/or takes longer now that you are older
- Dryness and painful sex
- Lack of libido
Why Is Having An Orgasm Harder?
There are many reasons that you having an orgasm is harder and/or takes longer once you get older, including:
- Low libido and lack of interest in sex
- Lack of exercise & poor diet
- Lack of sleep
- Low testosterone, estrogen, progesterone, oxytocin levels
- Relationship problems
Everyone is different, and everyone’s body is different. What makes one woman orgasm might not work for you and vice versa.
First your period…and now menopause. The fun NEVER ends!
Unfortunately, menopause changes your body, your mind, and your sex drive.
The change in your hormones from menopause effects how your body reacts sexually. You may not be as easily aroused as you once were and you may be less sensitive to touching or stroking.
Dryness And Painful Sex
Due to the lower levels of estrogen during menopause, there can be less blood supply to the vagina. Unfortunately, that can affect vaginal lubrication, which means that the vagina is not wet enough for sex.
Little to no lubrication makes sex uncomfortable and very painful. That translates to the frequency of sex going W A Y down.
Vibrators and other adult products stimulate pelvic blood flow, which helps to create more vaginal moisture. More moisture means better sex! Plus, vaginal tissues are thinner and more delicate making the best sex toys for older women different from what younger women need.
Vaginal Moisturizer vs. Personal Lubricant
During menopause, your body produces less moisture than before. Therefore, vaginal moisturizer to the rescue! It just makes everything better and more pleasurable. Think of it this way: Would you go down a water slide without water?
What is the difference between a lubricant and a vaginal moisturizer? Lubricants are designed for typical use during sex. Vaginal moisturizers are designed to help maintain a healthy vaginal ecosystem, regardless of sexual activity. However, it can also be used as a lubricant for sex, if desired.
An excellent lubricant is Uberlube, a silicone lubricant that is not sticky or tacky and has vitamin E, which makes it silky smooth. This best-selling and ultra premium lubricant has a glass bottle and convenient pump top doesn’t look like typical lubricant.
Unfortunately, as many women get older, they loose their libido or have a lot less than they used to.
Losing the desire for sex is common and for good reason; there are very real biological components that exist like stress, lack of sleep, medication, etc. Scientific research proves the role sex toys play in a healthy libido. A woman’s hormone pattern affects her libido causing her sex drive to differ during her 28-day cycle. A vibrator and sex toys can enhance your sexual experience, rather than diminish interest, boosting youribido and sexual drive.
Arthritis, which worsens with age, makes holding a vibrator more difficult and vibration on your hands and joints uncomfortable. Therefore, finding a sex toy that makes you feel good down there, but it should also not cause discomfort in your hands.