10 Best Sex Toys for Seniors 2020

10 Best Sex Toys for Seniors

This post was last updated on July 31, 2020 at 9:09 am.

Desire and sex don't disappear or end as you get older. At any age, sex is a source of pleasure and health benefits!

According to the National Poll on Healthy Aging by the University of Michigan, 40% of adults aged 65 to 80 are sexually active, and 54 percent say sex is important to their quality of life. Sixty-five percent of people in this age group describe themselves as still being interested in sex. 

Health benefits of sex and orgasms include:

  • Better sleep
  • Boosts your immune system
  • Relieves pain
  • Exercise
  • Reduces depression
  • and many more!

Learn more about the health benefits of orgasms here.

As you get older, you approach sex and desire very differently.

For many women, menopause changes the way they think about sex and desire.

  • Due to decreased estrogen levels, your bodies change.
  • The wall of your vagina gets thinner, which can lead to painful sex.
  • You produce less lubrication and experience vaginal dryness.
  • You can experience incontinence.
  • Desire can decrease causing sex to no longer be a priority.

For many men:

  • Erectile dysfunction is an issue due to lower testosterone levels.
  • Prostate health is more important than ever.

Sexual Health Is Important For Everyone

Sexual health is important for women and men at any age.

Exercising your pelvic floor muscles can help with incontinence and help you have better orgasms. Kegel exercises strengthen the muscles of your pelvic floor. Strong pelvic muscles support your pelvic organs and increase circulation to the region.

To exercise your Kegel muscles and pelvic floor, you can flex and release your kegel muscles (like the muscles you use to stop your pee mid-flow). However, the best way way to exercise your pelvic muscles is to use a Kegel exerciser.

Massaging your prostate (with or without a prostate massager) and getting all of the toxins out is also very important. Plus, it feels good! You can have an orgasm whether you are erect or flaccid.

Learn more about the prostate massage here.

Why Sex?

Not only are there many health benefits to sex, it will help you to maintain intimacy, closeness, and communication with your partner.

Senior sex can be better than ever in many ways:

  • You know yourself and what you like and don't like.
  • You understand your body.
  • You are more confident.
  • You have made your relationship mistakes and know what you want.
  • You enjoy the (and have the time for) long arousal time.

Pleasure doesn't always have to include a partner. Masturbation is an excellent stress-reliever because of the release of the feel-good oxytocin into your system. Oxytocin has been credited with easing insomnia and as an effective pain reliever.

The mainstram is surprised that people who are middle- and post middle-aged are still enjoying sex. Although pregnancy is no longer an issue, STIs are an important risk factor that should still be avoided not matter your age.

Why Should Seniors Use Sex Toys?

In today's world, sex toys have become more acceptable. Many people realize that they only help and add to your pleasure and enjoyment of sex. Sex and pleasure are good things, and if you can make them even better, why not?

There are many different sex toys that seniors can and should use to have more pleasure and help to improve their sexual health.

For an older person, it can be overwhelming and confusing, especially because many of these products were meant for younger people. You want to try a senior sex toy but you have lots of questions. 

Vibrators and sex toys are excellent for seniors because:

  1. arousal time for women tends to increase with age.
  2. you need a longer arousal time to reach orgasm.
  3. aches, pains, and arthritic wrists, knuckles and other joints can get tired after vigorous, repetitive motions.
  4. sex toys can reach places and positions that might be too hard for you.
  5. if you don't have a partner, you should still experience solo pleasure.
  6. sex toys can help reduce some physical conditions of aging.
  7. they are alot of fun and are not what they used to be!

Sex toys are designed to stimulate your most pleasurable areas. This includes the clitoris, vulva, G-spot, and prostate. 

Of course, toys are also called toys for a reason - they add pleasure, fun, and playfulness to your sex life and relationship. They let you explore what feels good, add variety to your sexual play, and experiment with new types of sensation.

Sex toys are just another way to experience pleasure.

What Sex Toys Work Best for Seniors?

Everyone is different, and everyone likes different sex toys. Also, not all sex toys are created equal. There are high-quality sex toys and cheap sex toys.

Strength matters when you are choosing a senior sex toy. As a woman ages, blood flow to the genitals can decrease. This means that there is less sensitivity and it takes a longer time to get aroused.

Since the vaginal area becomes more sensitive with age, senior sex toys that are made of soft materials, such as silicone, will be gentler and feel better on your body.

A couples vibrator and sex toy will help both partners feel pleasure during sex. A vibrating penis ring turns an erect penis into a vibrator with a powerful vibrating motor. Also, a penis ring will constrict blood flow from the penis, resulting in a harder and longer-lasting erection.

The Best Luxury Vibrators and Sex Toys for Seniors

The best luxury vibrators and sex toys for Seniors:

  • Are powerful for long periods of time
  • Are easy to use with easy to find buttons
  • Are easy to hold but not too heavy
  • Do not have too many buttons
  • Rechargeable
  • Are soft
  • Are the right size for internal stimulation especially for those who experience vaginal soreness and decreased elasticity
  • Are FUN!

For someone who has never tried a sex toy before, where do you start?

First the basics . . .

What Happens If You Don't Like A Toy?

Give it at least 3-4 tries before you judge the toy. Whenever you try something new, the first couple of times you are focused more on the newness and sometimes awkwardness of the situation. Your body isn’t used to the sensation and your mind might wander a bit. Also, depending on where you are in your menstrual cycle (or even menopause), your body can react differently to sex toys. Your body has different needs during those times, which can affect how well sex toys can work.

It’s also important to remember that everyone is different and has a different body. What works for one, may not work for you. So there is no one “best” toy out there - there’s only the best toy for YOU!

Why Do You Want A High-Quality Luxury Sex Toy?

Luxury sex toys are higher quality products.

Would you rather drive a Maserati or a Ford? If price were no object, the answer is simple: you would want to drive a Maserati. Why? It’s faster, made with better materials, more exclusive, etc.

The same is true with high-quality luxury sex toys. They are:

  • made of body-safe materials (rather than toxic chemicals that are harmful to your body)

  • quieter

  • more powerful

  • rechargeable

  • waterproof

  • built to last a long time (and have warranties!)

Luxury sex toy manufacturers maintain rigorous standards for their products. They spend a lot of time and money on research and development. Thus, they stand by their products with at least one-year warranties.

High-quality premium sex toys do NOT have:

  • rough seams

  • a rubbery chemical smell like that of a new shower curtain

  • “jelly” materials/latex, which contains rubber

Luxury, quality, and safety come at a price! Remember: you get what you pay for when it comes to adult products.

High-end sex toys and vibrators are made with body-safe materials. The best materials are non-porous and non-toxic. Medical-grade silicone is often used, which is excellent at transferring vibrations. Silicone sex toys come in many different textures and finishes. Other premium materials include stainless steel, borosilicate glass, Elastomed, and ABS plastic.



Choosing a luxury vibrator and sex toy can be difficult, especially if you are shopping online. There are lots of sex toys out there. So, how do you know which is the right toy for you?

How Do You Get Started With Sex Toys?

Ask yourself these questions:

  1. How will you use your vibrator? Do you want a vibrator for external stimulation to stimulates your clitoris? Do you want a vibrator for internal stimulation in your vagina and stimulates your G-spot? Do you want a vibrator that stimulates you both internally and externally at the same time? Will you use it for masturbation or during partner sex? Do you want it to double as a back massager?

  2. What should it look like? Do you want a sex toy to look like a penis? Do you want something more discreet, where it doesn't look like a sex toy?

  3. How should it feel against your skin? Vibrators come in all shapes and sizes. It can be firm, flexible, hard, soft, textured, or smooth.

  4. What is the right size for an internal toy? A size that would have felt perfect years ago might be too big and uncomfortable now, especially if you are not having regular penetrative sex.

  5. Do you have mobility restrictions or other physical issues? Is wrist arthritis an issue for holding a vibrator? What position will you be in when you use it?

  6. Will you be traveling with your toy? If you will be traveling with your toy, you want something that has a travel lock feature.

Luxury Vibrator and Sex Toy Categories

External Vibrators

External vibrators stimulate the vulva and clitoris. Some luxury vibrators offer pinpoint stimulation of the clitoris, while others offer broad stimulation of the entire vulva.

How does the clitoris work?

The clitoris has approximately 8,000 sensory nerve endings and affects over 50,000 nerves all over the body when stimulated. The clitoris resembles a wishbone, but you can only see the tip (the clitoral head) or the hood (the foreskin). There are two clitoral “legs” inside the body that goes along your labia. Extending down the vaginal wall, these "legs" can be massaged or stimulated during penetration.

SEX TIP: Approximately 70% of women need some sort of clitoral stimulation to orgasm

Internal Vibrators

Internal vibrators stimulate G-spot and the area around the G-spot. With a curved design, these vibrators stimulate the G-spot. Rabbit (or dual stimulation) vibrators stimulate the clitoris and vulva at the same time.

What is the G-spot?

The G-spot, or Gräfenberg Spot/zone (named after the German gynecologist who first “discovered” it), is a bean/peanut shaped area (a system of glands & ducts) inside the vagina. When aroused, it grows to the size of a walnut. Composed of erectile tissue, it feels rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall when aroused. When aroused, it swells up when blood rushes to it. (It feels like the roof of your mouth.)

Where is the G-spot?

The G-spot an area of spongy erectile tissue. It surrounds the urethra about 2-3 inches on your vaginal wall towards the belly button (towards the front of the vaginal wall close to the uretha). The G-spot is easiest to locate when a woman is aroused because the tissue is swollen. When engorged and swollen, the area is firmer than the rest of the surrounding vaginal wall. Many people find it easier to have someone else locate their G-spot.

Couples Vibrators

Couples vibrators and sex toys allow both partners to feel pleasure during penetration. They are often hands-free sex toys. Couples vibrators and sex toys stimulate the clitoris. Sometimes both the clitoris and the G-spot are stimulated during penetration.

Do You Need Lubricant?


Personal lubricant is needed with sex toys because the older women get, the less natural lubrication they produce. Also, lube on penetrative sex toys to make insertion easier.

Plus, using lube will lead to better stimulation and more pleasure. Every sensation is enhanced, which will allow you to feel every movement at a heightened level.

Depending on the material of the toy, most toys work best with water-based lubricant, which feels wet. One of our favorites is Sliquid Organics Natural.

Silicone-based lubricant is best for sex. It is slick and not tacky. Many luxury vibrators can be used with premium silicone lube. So, test it first to make sure that the silicone does not break down. Our favorite for seniors is Pjur Med Premium Glide.

If you require a lubricant to wear on a daily basis because you are experiencing vaginal dryness, we would recommend Sliquid Satin.

10 Best Sex Toys for Seniors 2020:

Best External Luxury Sex Toy for Seniors

If you have never used a vibrator and are a beginner, then you should start with an external luxury vibrator.

1. Le Wand Petite




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Le Wand Petite rechargeable massager is a powerful yet easy to hold massager, especially if you suffer from arthritis. Doubling as a back massager, the Le Wand luxury vibrator is small yet mighty. Besides it's soft silicone head, it has different attachments for different sensations.

Why it's an excellent senior sex toy:

  • Powerful
  • Small and easy to hold
  • Body-safe silicone head
  • Flexible neck to reach all the right places
  • Easy to use controls
  • Excellent for beginners
  • Cordless and rechargeable
  • Additional attachments for different types of sensations

2. Dame Fin Finger Vibrator





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Small yet powerful, Fin is easy to take on and take off. This luxury vibrator works with you hand's natural movement and is an extension of your hand putting vibration anywhere you want external vibration. 

It's ergonomic and easy to use making it helpful for people with disabilities or if you have mobility issues in your fingers, or have trouble holding a vibrator.

Why it's an excellent senior sex toy:

  • Powerful
  • Small and easy to hold
  • Easy to use
  • Can be used with or without the tether strap
  • Excellent for beginners
  • Rechargeable

Best Internal Luxury Sex Toy for Seniors

If you want internal stimulation, remember to choose something that is soft and not too big (in diameter).

3. MysteryVibe Crescendo




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The MysteryVibe Crescendo is the most bendable sex toy that forms to any shape. A unisex and versatile vibrator and sex toy, the Crescendo allow you to bend it so that you can experience many types of stimulation, either penetrative or not.

Crescendo has 6 different places where it bends and 6 powerful and quiet motors. All of these motors give you 12 vibration modes and 16 pre-set speeds.

Why it's an excellent senior sex toy:

  • Powerful
  • Easy to hold and bend
  • Flexible to reach all the right places
  • Easy to use controls
  • Rechargeable

4. Tenga Iroha Mikazuki and Minamo




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Tenga Iroha Mikazuki and Minamo are slim internal vibrators. These discreet vibrators are excellent if you are not regularly having penetrative sex. These vibrators are cushiony, not hard, with gentle to moderate vibrations. 

Iroha Mikazuki gently progresses from .7 inch in diameter to 1.1 inches midway to a approximately 1.4 inches. Meanwhile, Iroha Minamo goes from .9 inch to 1.3 inches.

(Note: If you’re having vaginal pain with penetration, the soft silicone can tug at the skin. Choose a smooth, harder vibrator or dilator instead, such as the Femani Wand.)

Why it's an excellent senior sex toy:

  • Powerful
  • Easy to hold
  • Flexible to reach all the right places
  • Easy to use controls
  • Gentle to moderate vibration

Best Male Sex Toy for Seniors

5. Fleshlight Flight Pilot


Starts at $49.95


(Discreet shipping)

The Fleshlight Flight is masturbation sleeve that provides extra stimulation for older men who need to build an erection when with a partner. It can also be enjoyed for solo masturbation. The Flight stimulates sex with adjustable suction, life-like warmth and interior material and textures.

Why it's an excellent senior sex toy:

  • Helps to build an erection
  • Stimulates sex with suction, warmth, and texture
  • Light and easy to hold
  • Easy to use

6. Je Joue Mio Vibrating Ring



Starts at $109.99


(Free discreet shipping)

The Je Joue Mio is a stretchy vibrating penis ring. This sex toy for men contricts bloodflow so that you can have a longer and harder erection.

Plus, it vibrates so that your partner can also feel the vibration on her vulva. You can also use Mio during solo play. Turn the Mio around so that it vibrates on your perineum (or t'aint).

Why it's an excellent senior sex toy:

  • Powerful vibrating penis ring
  • Can be used alone or with a partner
  • Easy to use
  • Rechargeable

7. Pulse 3 Solo or Duo Masturbator for Men


Starts at $119


(Free discreet shipping)

The Pulse Solo or Duo is an excellent senior sex toy for men. The Pulse stimulates the frenulum, a very sensitive part of the penis for many men. This luxury male sex toy helps you to get hard if you have difficulties. It can be used on a flaccid or erect penis for an amazing orgasm.

Pulse Solo is meant to be used during masturbation. Meanwhile, Pulse Duo is meant to be used with a partner. The underside vibrates as well and you can use it with the remote control.

Why it's an excellent senior sex toy:

  • Can be used with a flaccid or hard penis
  • Can be used with or without lubricant
  • Powerful
  • Easy to hold
  • Flexible wings wrap penis
  • Easy to use controls or remote control



Best Couples Sex Toy for Seniors

8. Eva 2 by Dame Products




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The Eva 2 is a hands-free luxury vibrator that is a great option for senior woman because it is soft and hands-free.

Use this amazing sex toy alone or with your partner, and it will stay in place comfortably, thanks to its flexible wings.

9. We-Vibe Melt Stimulator


Starts at $149


(Free discreet shipping)

If you want a toy for partner sex so that both partners can orgam, try the We-Vibe MeltGentle suction and waves of air massage the clitoris without over-stimulation or needing to stop

The slim, curved design is comfortable and easy to hold. It fits perfectly between you and your partner in any sexual position.

Why it's an excellent senior sex toy:

  • Excellent when both partners want to experience pleasure
  • Easy to hold
  • Fits between two people during sex

10. Liberator Wedge Pillow




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Of course there are many things that you can use as a positioning aide during sex, but the Liberator Wedge is meant for this job! Sex furniture, such as the Wedge, elevates your pelvis and make certain positions that were once not comfortable more comfortable.

The Wedge makes G-spot stimulation, doggy style, and oral sex more comfortable.

Why it's an excellent senior sex toy:

  • Elevates the pelvis for more comfortable sex
  • Makes G-spot stimulation easier and deeper
  • Makes oral sex and doggy style more comfortable

BONUS: Books for Seniors

Naked at Our Age by Joan Price




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The Menopause Book




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The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure




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The Penis Book




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